My husband has ADHD and has trouble sleeping. He takes melatonin because we prefer to stay away from the narcotic sleeping pills. This does seem to be helping him sleep better but he says he still does not wake up feeling refreshed or it's as if he didn't even sleep at all. What else can he do to get better rest?What can my husband do to get better sleep?
People often have trouble getting off to sleep because they are talking to themselves in a fast paced voice. Maybe talking about the events of the day or thinking about what they are going to do tomorrow. One way that has helped many people sleep better is to simply hear the voice slow down. Hear it talking slowed down and with pauses between each word. Maybe your husband can give it a go...What can my husband do to get better sleep?
Actually the weed probably doesn't help much with his sleep. It may help him get to sleep, but it could negatively impact the quality of his sleep. The same is true of alcohol. Alcohol can help you get to sleep, but it is a poor quality sleep.
Does he get much exercise? If not, that is something he could include in his daily activities that should wear him out by the end of the day, and it has numerous other benefits. Aerobic exercise where you get out of breath and high heart rate is preferable to strength training (lifting weights).
Does he drink beverages with caffeine in them? That would be another obvious one to cut down on if that is the case.
Smoking can cause your body to wake you as it craves it's next nicotine hit. Stopping would be a great start to better sleeping. Before you dive into medicines, think about why you are not sleeping from a broader view point. Get some tips on line I recommend :
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Wednesday, November 23, 2011
What would I do when I was told that my husband is a cheater?
The father of my child have been seen in the street while he was trying to pick up a woman from the street. I was expecting that but the truth always hurts. I wouldn't expect myself being mad that much. I didn't confront him and i will never do. I will move out of his life legally.What would I do when I was told that my husband is a cheater?
if you aren't willing to confront him about it and talk it out to find out what's EXACTLY is going on and WHY. Then yes, you need to leave him and divorce him, a marriage is made up of many diffrent things, and communicating is one of them, if you can't communicate with your spouse then you won't be happy with him, Good LuckWhat would I do when I was told that my husband is a cheater?
Check to see if you have any diseases and stop all intimacy. Only if it was related to prostitution. If there is the slightest possibility it wasn't go to him and talk to him. If you know it was then just say adios and try to prevent yourself from hurting like that anymore. I only put 75% of trust in my husband. He never mistreated me since we were 12. I told him that I wasn't going to trust him 100% and if it gets any lower than 60% I was gonna talk to him. He told me that he trusted me 150% and all I told him was don't expect the same.
Picking up a woman on the street, like a prostitute? In any case, rest assured he has cheated on you before . Stop all intimacy with him, get checked for STD`S and be sure to have this witness prepared to back you up if need be. And move out and on asap..make him pay for what he has done to you..this can be taken as a threat to your health and well being, what if he contracted aids or another deadly disease?
I certainly would NOT go w/o saying something to him. He does DESERVE to KNOW that you did see him, that you DO KNOW what he's been up to. I'll be darned if I would keep that to myself. He does deserve to be ';called'; on that, %26amp; NOT to let him get away scott free w/o saying anything to him. He surely deserves to know that you are fully away of what he's been up to, %26amp; the very reason he's disappointed %26amp; hurt you like he has. Do NOT let him get away w/it, he's really stooping very LOW to do a thing like that against you. You really should look him straight in the eyes %26amp; tell him just what you saw. Let him feel some hurt too, if he even could. Best to you...:)
Sounds like you are handling it well, maturely and calm. It is really surorising to see a woman handle infedelity like this.
My ex wife once thought I was cheating on her and beated me up, funny thing cause she was the one who cheated and ended the marriage. But kudos to you.
this would best be answered in the form of a song by Lil Wayne..
ahem........
';she knows it's wrong, she knows i'm from the streets and all she wants me to do is fuc the police';
a snipit from Lil Wayne's.. Mrs. Officer..
Hi Val.. ;)
So how reliable is your source of this information? Failing to confront is failure in the marriage on your part. If you can't investigate to know the truth then perhaps you should avoid relationships completely.
I don't know what you would do, but I would feel greatly betrayed, completed embarrassed, and absolutely ashamed...and I would certainly not be having sex with him again. Who knows what kind of disease he may have.
Marriage should be based on trust..You cannot trust him...Just remember a divorce is not about ';who keeps the children';. His infidelity makes him a bad husband, but does it make him a bad father??
OMG I am laughing...TRIXIE is quoting Lil' Wayne now I have heard EVERYTHING!
LMFAO!
Didn't I see you on Cheaters?
yeap leave and make him suffer
if you aren't willing to confront him about it and talk it out to find out what's EXACTLY is going on and WHY. Then yes, you need to leave him and divorce him, a marriage is made up of many diffrent things, and communicating is one of them, if you can't communicate with your spouse then you won't be happy with him, Good LuckWhat would I do when I was told that my husband is a cheater?
Check to see if you have any diseases and stop all intimacy. Only if it was related to prostitution. If there is the slightest possibility it wasn't go to him and talk to him. If you know it was then just say adios and try to prevent yourself from hurting like that anymore. I only put 75% of trust in my husband. He never mistreated me since we were 12. I told him that I wasn't going to trust him 100% and if it gets any lower than 60% I was gonna talk to him. He told me that he trusted me 150% and all I told him was don't expect the same.
Picking up a woman on the street, like a prostitute? In any case, rest assured he has cheated on you before . Stop all intimacy with him, get checked for STD`S and be sure to have this witness prepared to back you up if need be. And move out and on asap..make him pay for what he has done to you..this can be taken as a threat to your health and well being, what if he contracted aids or another deadly disease?
I certainly would NOT go w/o saying something to him. He does DESERVE to KNOW that you did see him, that you DO KNOW what he's been up to. I'll be darned if I would keep that to myself. He does deserve to be ';called'; on that, %26amp; NOT to let him get away scott free w/o saying anything to him. He surely deserves to know that you are fully away of what he's been up to, %26amp; the very reason he's disappointed %26amp; hurt you like he has. Do NOT let him get away w/it, he's really stooping very LOW to do a thing like that against you. You really should look him straight in the eyes %26amp; tell him just what you saw. Let him feel some hurt too, if he even could. Best to you...:)
Sounds like you are handling it well, maturely and calm. It is really surorising to see a woman handle infedelity like this.
My ex wife once thought I was cheating on her and beated me up, funny thing cause she was the one who cheated and ended the marriage. But kudos to you.
this would best be answered in the form of a song by Lil Wayne..
ahem........
';she knows it's wrong, she knows i'm from the streets and all she wants me to do is fuc the police';
a snipit from Lil Wayne's.. Mrs. Officer..
Hi Val.. ;)
So how reliable is your source of this information? Failing to confront is failure in the marriage on your part. If you can't investigate to know the truth then perhaps you should avoid relationships completely.
I don't know what you would do, but I would feel greatly betrayed, completed embarrassed, and absolutely ashamed...and I would certainly not be having sex with him again. Who knows what kind of disease he may have.
Marriage should be based on trust..You cannot trust him...Just remember a divorce is not about ';who keeps the children';. His infidelity makes him a bad husband, but does it make him a bad father??
OMG I am laughing...TRIXIE is quoting Lil' Wayne now I have heard EVERYTHING!
LMFAO!
Didn't I see you on Cheaters?
yeap leave and make him suffer
Why did my dog lay right on top of my husband when he was sick?
Can anyone explain why my male St. Bernard layed right on top of my husband, nose to nose when my husband was sick with a bad cold and fever. My dog never did this before. My husband was laying on his back on the couch sick with a terrible cold and fever and my St. Bernard got up on top of him and laid his body stretched out right on top of him. Was he trying to keep him warm or something. He never, ever laid on anyone before. Can someone explain this behavior.Why did my dog lay right on top of my husband when he was sick?
This is a very interesting question. There are a few different things going on here. One is that your dog sees you and your husband as part of his pack so when your husband got ill and in a weak condition your dog seen him as being a weak and vonerable member of your pack because he was sick and the dog was taking it upon himself to look after him to see that nothing would harm him. The other reason I believe is because St,Bernards for hundreds of years have been bred to be rescue dogs and have a strong drive to come to the rescue of someone in trouble. One of the main types of rescue work these dogs were bred for is mountain rescue. When these dogs would locate someone that was burried in the snow or that had fallen through some thin ice they would dig them out or swim out and retrieve that person. Once they had pulled the person to safety the St,Bernard would lay across the person to help regulate the persons body temprature. The reason the dog new to do this was that they were thought to detect chemical changes in the human body that told them that the persons body temprature was not normal. So the dog would lay it's massive thick coated body across the person in an attempt to help regulate the body temp using it's own body heat. What I believe your dog did was scence a chemical change in your husband body that instinctivly told him that your husband's body temp was not normal. It made no difference weather it was a fever or hypothermia. All the dog new was it was not normal and the only way for him to regulate it was to lay across him. He was just doing what he was bred for and what came natural to him. GREAT DOG.Why did my dog lay right on top of my husband when he was sick?
He is monitoring his breathing and pulse and just in case...he is there to do CPR including mouth to mouth resucitation...
It's part of the pack instinct, to protect and comfort the pack leader. My cats do this too when I don't feel well. It's normal behavior.
sometimes dogs just know.
animales know when things r going wrong so they do these kind of things. it's not straing it's just your dogs reaction to his sickness. don't worry.
I'D GET MY HUSBAND TO A DOCTOR ASAP.
Dogs know a lot more than they're given credit for.
Because animals have an amazing sense of when something is wrong. Laying on your husband was your dogs way of fetching some chicken noodle soup in a sense. It was his way of comforting your husband. When Im sick (the sicker I am) the sloser my cats stay to me. Animals are wonderful arent they?
He knows Daddy didn't feel good! When we had to put my little dog down, I was in tears for a week. Every time I would cry, my big dog would try to sit in my lap or bring me all her favorite toys. They can tell how people are feeling, especially those close to them!
He was worried and trying to help. What a sweetie!!!
Trying to comfort your husband and to take some of the pain away. Aren't they intuitive?
animals can sense when there is something wrong and they to comfort the only way they know how
He was warm for the dog and I suspect it was instinctual for the dog tto comfort a sick companion and keep them warm during fever.
He was just trying to make him feel better.
Animals can sense when you are not feeling well. He obviously wanted to stay very close to him until he was better. They are wonderfully sensative and give us lots of love when we need it most. He's a keeper...
Dogs are smart. They know when things aren't right. My mom is a diabetic, and she has a chihuahua. On more than one occasion her dog has woke her up when her blood sugar was getting dangerously low. (This was before her eye surgery and she was accidentally overdosing on her insulin.)
he prob. new that he was sick and needed help and wanted to warm him up
This is a very interesting question. There are a few different things going on here. One is that your dog sees you and your husband as part of his pack so when your husband got ill and in a weak condition your dog seen him as being a weak and vonerable member of your pack because he was sick and the dog was taking it upon himself to look after him to see that nothing would harm him. The other reason I believe is because St,Bernards for hundreds of years have been bred to be rescue dogs and have a strong drive to come to the rescue of someone in trouble. One of the main types of rescue work these dogs were bred for is mountain rescue. When these dogs would locate someone that was burried in the snow or that had fallen through some thin ice they would dig them out or swim out and retrieve that person. Once they had pulled the person to safety the St,Bernard would lay across the person to help regulate the persons body temprature. The reason the dog new to do this was that they were thought to detect chemical changes in the human body that told them that the persons body temprature was not normal. So the dog would lay it's massive thick coated body across the person in an attempt to help regulate the body temp using it's own body heat. What I believe your dog did was scence a chemical change in your husband body that instinctivly told him that your husband's body temp was not normal. It made no difference weather it was a fever or hypothermia. All the dog new was it was not normal and the only way for him to regulate it was to lay across him. He was just doing what he was bred for and what came natural to him. GREAT DOG.Why did my dog lay right on top of my husband when he was sick?
He is monitoring his breathing and pulse and just in case...he is there to do CPR including mouth to mouth resucitation...
It's part of the pack instinct, to protect and comfort the pack leader. My cats do this too when I don't feel well. It's normal behavior.
sometimes dogs just know.
animales know when things r going wrong so they do these kind of things. it's not straing it's just your dogs reaction to his sickness. don't worry.
I'D GET MY HUSBAND TO A DOCTOR ASAP.
Dogs know a lot more than they're given credit for.
Because animals have an amazing sense of when something is wrong. Laying on your husband was your dogs way of fetching some chicken noodle soup in a sense. It was his way of comforting your husband. When Im sick (the sicker I am) the sloser my cats stay to me. Animals are wonderful arent they?
He knows Daddy didn't feel good! When we had to put my little dog down, I was in tears for a week. Every time I would cry, my big dog would try to sit in my lap or bring me all her favorite toys. They can tell how people are feeling, especially those close to them!
He was worried and trying to help. What a sweetie!!!
Trying to comfort your husband and to take some of the pain away. Aren't they intuitive?
animals can sense when there is something wrong and they to comfort the only way they know how
He was warm for the dog and I suspect it was instinctual for the dog tto comfort a sick companion and keep them warm during fever.
He was just trying to make him feel better.
Animals can sense when you are not feeling well. He obviously wanted to stay very close to him until he was better. They are wonderfully sensative and give us lots of love when we need it most. He's a keeper...
Dogs are smart. They know when things aren't right. My mom is a diabetic, and she has a chihuahua. On more than one occasion her dog has woke her up when her blood sugar was getting dangerously low. (This was before her eye surgery and she was accidentally overdosing on her insulin.)
he prob. new that he was sick and needed help and wanted to warm him up
How does my husband and I decide on a realtor? We each have a realtor that sold our condos before marrying.?
He sold his condo with his realtor and now we are in my condo and need to sell it and will use my realtor. However, when it comes to buying our new home, who do we use? He likes his, and I like mine and we both like eachothers but obviously can only use one. His realtor has offered 20% off his commision and we aren't sure what my realtor will offer. His realtor is more familiar with another city but says he knows enough about where we want to buy, while mine is very familair with where we plan on buying.How does my husband and I decide on a realtor? We each have a realtor that sold our condos before marrying.?
This will be a business transaction. If you're looking to make friends, host a tea party. In real estate transactions, friendship should be left out of the equation. Pick a neutral realtor who spends less time telling you all the great things he's going to do for you and more time getting you a phenominal deal on your new home.How does my husband and I decide on a realtor? We each have a realtor that sold our condos before marrying.?
Your two realtors can always partner up if they are willing to split the commission (assuming that they work for the same company). I see a lot of husband and wife real estate teams - if they work together, they still get one commission.
if you are willing to do things yourselves and want to save some money, use a company called ';Buy Owner'; you will have to scope out properties on your own, and show the place you are selling on your own, but buy owner covers all the legal work and are very efficient. they also are a fraction of the price a realtor will charge.
This will be a business transaction. If you're looking to make friends, host a tea party. In real estate transactions, friendship should be left out of the equation. Pick a neutral realtor who spends less time telling you all the great things he's going to do for you and more time getting you a phenominal deal on your new home.How does my husband and I decide on a realtor? We each have a realtor that sold our condos before marrying.?
Your two realtors can always partner up if they are willing to split the commission (assuming that they work for the same company). I see a lot of husband and wife real estate teams - if they work together, they still get one commission.
if you are willing to do things yourselves and want to save some money, use a company called ';Buy Owner'; you will have to scope out properties on your own, and show the place you are selling on your own, but buy owner covers all the legal work and are very efficient. they also are a fraction of the price a realtor will charge.
Why is my husband forcing open marriage on me just to keep mistress?
He moved out and stopped having sex with me 2yrs ago to be with his mistress full time.
Why is he forcing an open marriage on me when he knows I'm trying to fix this broken marriage for our kids.Why is my husband forcing open marriage on me just to keep mistress?
he isn't.... you are letting him.
get a divorce... and get rid of this LOWLIFE SCUM.
you don't stay married for the sake of the kids..... only does more harm than good.Why is my husband forcing open marriage on me just to keep mistress?
You aren't being forced into anything. You are willingly staying married to him. You rightfully could sue him for abandonment.
He had shown his true feelings that he is not in love with you and he does not want to be married to you.
It sounds like you are in denial and think you are holding something together, ';for the sake of the kids.';
And what is the reality that you are showing your children? By your lack of self-defense you are showing them that a man can abandon his responsibilites and turn his back on his obligations. You are showing your kids that a woman can be humiliated by a husband that walks out on her. What are you really teaching the children with your behavior.
A strong self--loving human being would sue the husband for divorce, get alimony, custody and child support.
That bum is trying to get out of your life. Let him!
First of all if he moved out 2yrs ago to be with the other woman you can't fix it any more because he doesn't want to.
As for the open marriage thing. He wants it that way so he doesn't loose in the divorce. He knows you have grounds to file for divorce IE he committed adultery. You could probably take him to the cleaners so to speak, which means he would loose a lot of money and then the **** would leave him.
While I do believe that children are better off with a mother and father that are still together, this is not such a case where I would advise the marriage to continue.
He wants his cake and to be able to eat it too. Either roll with it or divorce him. It doesn't sound like he's coming back and why would he when he has the mistress for fun %26amp;games and little to no obligation for supporting you %26amp; the kids. Trying to save a marriage for the sake of the kids will only backfire. All that will accomplish is making the kids feel like they caused this and make them (and you) miserable while hubby is out having a blast. Teach your children that there is a better life out there, be an adult role model and be strong, get out for your sake and the kids sake.
You answered your own question. ';to keep mistress.';
This is not an ';open'; marriage. This cannot be fixed. This isn't good for your kids.
Metaphorically speaking, you need to grow a set! File for divorce, sue for child support and take everything you can get. Get a good lawyer to take him to the cleaners. Get on with your life. Eventually, you will find someone worthy of you. Be free to pursue it. This relationship is dead. Give it a proper burial.
Sorry if that sounds harsh, but it's the truth.
If he moved out, then i'd assume he's finished with the marriage
Maybe it's time to start taking care of you and those kids exclusively, and stop waiting for someone who has shown absolutely no respect for his entire family.
If you are struggling with all of this, perhaps consider talking with a therapist to gain some insight into your life and to figure out what direction you might need to take to find your own happiness.
Your husband is a jack a s s
Wow, you are seriously deluded. Your marriage ended the first time your husband dropped his pants in another woman's bedroom. Stop trying to fix something that is broken beyond repair. You claim to do this for your kids, well if you really wanted to do what they needed, you'd get divorced and focus your energy on building a future for yourself and them. As opposed to running after a guy who has made it clear that he doesn't want you. What sort of an example do you think you're setting for your kids? Wake up and smell the coffee.
You are forcing this on yourself. He is having fun with his new mistress/girlfriend. Do you need a rock to fall onto your head to know this marriage is over? He doesn't want to save your marriage. Face facts and move on. It is not helping your kids at all to be married to this man. You are teaching your kids to have no self-respect and to be a fool. I am sorry to have to be so harsh, but you need to face reality. Good luck!
Could it be his way of getting out of paying child support and alimony? Think about it, what does he need you for? If there's no sex and he's not living with you, He basically doing what he wants and doesn't care if you like it or not.
So the Question is, what are YOU gonna do about it? Don't say you want to save your marriage for your kids. Don't use your kids as an excuse for not doing anything. Whether you guys are together or not, both of you are their parents and nothing going to change that. So, are you ready for a change? Or are you content to live like this?
A marriage is a partnership - no one can force an open marriage on anyone. If you don't like it, grow a spine and divorce his ***. You're not doing your kids any favors, you're just going to give them a really awful example of what a normal relationship should be like.
Break up with him its over !!!! get child support off him '; he will have to pay!'; get half his **** and start over your kids deserve better than this man! What kind, loving, supportive man does that??????? None he is a complete arss start fresh you deserve it your children deserve it! Be strong !!!!!!
It's obvious that he really doesn't want to be with you,but will stay for the kids,but will be with the person he really wants to be with.You either need to accept it or move on.
divorce him. you have grounds for divorce. you call it open marriage, but the law calls it adultery. that is crazy.
you are a doormat, ummmmmm he doesn't want you divorce him and he doesnt want to have sex with....so open marriage is perfect for him.
why dont you get some self respect and leave him alone.
He's a jerk, trying to have the best of both worlds. Don't let him, you will regret it in the end...he'll only leave her when he's ready, which is disrespectful and a total waste of your time.
you need to move on young lady. he obviously doesnt care about you or them right now. is he addicted to drugs?? that could be a big part of it
There is no such thing as an open marriage. Get a divorce
Doesn't care anymore
Love is Dead
Killed in a Car accident somewhere
IT SEEMS TO ME THERE IS NOTHING TO FIX, SIGN THE PAPERS
He is a selfish jerk.
divorce his ***bloom- top makeup
Why is he forcing an open marriage on me when he knows I'm trying to fix this broken marriage for our kids.Why is my husband forcing open marriage on me just to keep mistress?
he isn't.... you are letting him.
get a divorce... and get rid of this LOWLIFE SCUM.
you don't stay married for the sake of the kids..... only does more harm than good.Why is my husband forcing open marriage on me just to keep mistress?
You aren't being forced into anything. You are willingly staying married to him. You rightfully could sue him for abandonment.
He had shown his true feelings that he is not in love with you and he does not want to be married to you.
It sounds like you are in denial and think you are holding something together, ';for the sake of the kids.';
And what is the reality that you are showing your children? By your lack of self-defense you are showing them that a man can abandon his responsibilites and turn his back on his obligations. You are showing your kids that a woman can be humiliated by a husband that walks out on her. What are you really teaching the children with your behavior.
A strong self--loving human being would sue the husband for divorce, get alimony, custody and child support.
That bum is trying to get out of your life. Let him!
First of all if he moved out 2yrs ago to be with the other woman you can't fix it any more because he doesn't want to.
As for the open marriage thing. He wants it that way so he doesn't loose in the divorce. He knows you have grounds to file for divorce IE he committed adultery. You could probably take him to the cleaners so to speak, which means he would loose a lot of money and then the **** would leave him.
While I do believe that children are better off with a mother and father that are still together, this is not such a case where I would advise the marriage to continue.
He wants his cake and to be able to eat it too. Either roll with it or divorce him. It doesn't sound like he's coming back and why would he when he has the mistress for fun %26amp;games and little to no obligation for supporting you %26amp; the kids. Trying to save a marriage for the sake of the kids will only backfire. All that will accomplish is making the kids feel like they caused this and make them (and you) miserable while hubby is out having a blast. Teach your children that there is a better life out there, be an adult role model and be strong, get out for your sake and the kids sake.
You answered your own question. ';to keep mistress.';
This is not an ';open'; marriage. This cannot be fixed. This isn't good for your kids.
Metaphorically speaking, you need to grow a set! File for divorce, sue for child support and take everything you can get. Get a good lawyer to take him to the cleaners. Get on with your life. Eventually, you will find someone worthy of you. Be free to pursue it. This relationship is dead. Give it a proper burial.
Sorry if that sounds harsh, but it's the truth.
If he moved out, then i'd assume he's finished with the marriage
Maybe it's time to start taking care of you and those kids exclusively, and stop waiting for someone who has shown absolutely no respect for his entire family.
If you are struggling with all of this, perhaps consider talking with a therapist to gain some insight into your life and to figure out what direction you might need to take to find your own happiness.
Your husband is a jack a s s
Wow, you are seriously deluded. Your marriage ended the first time your husband dropped his pants in another woman's bedroom. Stop trying to fix something that is broken beyond repair. You claim to do this for your kids, well if you really wanted to do what they needed, you'd get divorced and focus your energy on building a future for yourself and them. As opposed to running after a guy who has made it clear that he doesn't want you. What sort of an example do you think you're setting for your kids? Wake up and smell the coffee.
You are forcing this on yourself. He is having fun with his new mistress/girlfriend. Do you need a rock to fall onto your head to know this marriage is over? He doesn't want to save your marriage. Face facts and move on. It is not helping your kids at all to be married to this man. You are teaching your kids to have no self-respect and to be a fool. I am sorry to have to be so harsh, but you need to face reality. Good luck!
Could it be his way of getting out of paying child support and alimony? Think about it, what does he need you for? If there's no sex and he's not living with you, He basically doing what he wants and doesn't care if you like it or not.
So the Question is, what are YOU gonna do about it? Don't say you want to save your marriage for your kids. Don't use your kids as an excuse for not doing anything. Whether you guys are together or not, both of you are their parents and nothing going to change that. So, are you ready for a change? Or are you content to live like this?
A marriage is a partnership - no one can force an open marriage on anyone. If you don't like it, grow a spine and divorce his ***. You're not doing your kids any favors, you're just going to give them a really awful example of what a normal relationship should be like.
Break up with him its over !!!! get child support off him '; he will have to pay!'; get half his **** and start over your kids deserve better than this man! What kind, loving, supportive man does that??????? None he is a complete arss start fresh you deserve it your children deserve it! Be strong !!!!!!
It's obvious that he really doesn't want to be with you,but will stay for the kids,but will be with the person he really wants to be with.You either need to accept it or move on.
divorce him. you have grounds for divorce. you call it open marriage, but the law calls it adultery. that is crazy.
you are a doormat, ummmmmm he doesn't want you divorce him and he doesnt want to have sex with....so open marriage is perfect for him.
why dont you get some self respect and leave him alone.
He's a jerk, trying to have the best of both worlds. Don't let him, you will regret it in the end...he'll only leave her when he's ready, which is disrespectful and a total waste of your time.
you need to move on young lady. he obviously doesnt care about you or them right now. is he addicted to drugs?? that could be a big part of it
There is no such thing as an open marriage. Get a divorce
Doesn't care anymore
Love is Dead
Killed in a Car accident somewhere
IT SEEMS TO ME THERE IS NOTHING TO FIX, SIGN THE PAPERS
He is a selfish jerk.
divorce his ***
What would I do when I was told that my husband is a cheater?
The father of my child have been seen in the street while he was trying to pick up a woman from the street. I was expecting that but the truth always hurts. I wouldn't expect myself being mad that much. I didn't confront him and i will never do. I will move out of his life legally.What would I do when I was told that my husband is a cheater?
if you aren't willing to confront him about it and talk it out to find out what's EXACTLY is going on and WHY. Then yes, you need to leave him and divorce him, a marriage is made up of many diffrent things, and communicating is one of them, if you can't communicate with your spouse then you won't be happy with him, Good LuckWhat would I do when I was told that my husband is a cheater?
Check to see if you have any diseases and stop all intimacy. Only if it was related to prostitution. If there is the slightest possibility it wasn't go to him and talk to him. If you know it was then just say adios and try to prevent yourself from hurting like that anymore. I only put 75% of trust in my husband. He never mistreated me since we were 12. I told him that I wasn't going to trust him 100% and if it gets any lower than 60% I was gonna talk to him. He told me that he trusted me 150% and all I told him was don't expect the same.
Picking up a woman on the street, like a prostitute? In any case, rest assured he has cheated on you before . Stop all intimacy with him, get checked for STD`S and be sure to have this witness prepared to back you up if need be. And move out and on asap..make him pay for what he has done to you..this can be taken as a threat to your health and well being, what if he contracted aids or another deadly disease?
I certainly would NOT go w/o saying something to him. He does DESERVE to KNOW that you did see him, that you DO KNOW what he's been up to. I'll be darned if I would keep that to myself. He does deserve to be ';called'; on that, %26amp; NOT to let him get away scott free w/o saying anything to him. He surely deserves to know that you are fully away of what he's been up to, %26amp; the very reason he's disappointed %26amp; hurt you like he has. Do NOT let him get away w/it, he's really stooping very LOW to do a thing like that against you. You really should look him straight in the eyes %26amp; tell him just what you saw. Let him feel some hurt too, if he even could. Best to you...:)
Sounds like you are handling it well, maturely and calm. It is really surorising to see a woman handle infedelity like this.
My ex wife once thought I was cheating on her and beated me up, funny thing cause she was the one who cheated and ended the marriage. But kudos to you.
this would best be answered in the form of a song by Lil Wayne..
ahem........
';she knows it's wrong, she knows i'm from the streets and all she wants me to do is fuc the police';
a snipit from Lil Wayne's.. Mrs. Officer..
Hi Val.. ;)
So how reliable is your source of this information? Failing to confront is failure in the marriage on your part. If you can't investigate to know the truth then perhaps you should avoid relationships completely.
I don't know what you would do, but I would feel greatly betrayed, completed embarrassed, and absolutely ashamed...and I would certainly not be having sex with him again. Who knows what kind of disease he may have.
Marriage should be based on trust..You cannot trust him...Just remember a divorce is not about ';who keeps the children';. His infidelity makes him a bad husband, but does it make him a bad father??
OMG I am laughing...TRIXIE is quoting Lil' Wayne now I have heard EVERYTHING!
LMFAO!
Didn't I see you on Cheaters?
yeap leave and make him suffer
if you aren't willing to confront him about it and talk it out to find out what's EXACTLY is going on and WHY. Then yes, you need to leave him and divorce him, a marriage is made up of many diffrent things, and communicating is one of them, if you can't communicate with your spouse then you won't be happy with him, Good LuckWhat would I do when I was told that my husband is a cheater?
Check to see if you have any diseases and stop all intimacy. Only if it was related to prostitution. If there is the slightest possibility it wasn't go to him and talk to him. If you know it was then just say adios and try to prevent yourself from hurting like that anymore. I only put 75% of trust in my husband. He never mistreated me since we were 12. I told him that I wasn't going to trust him 100% and if it gets any lower than 60% I was gonna talk to him. He told me that he trusted me 150% and all I told him was don't expect the same.
Picking up a woman on the street, like a prostitute? In any case, rest assured he has cheated on you before . Stop all intimacy with him, get checked for STD`S and be sure to have this witness prepared to back you up if need be. And move out and on asap..make him pay for what he has done to you..this can be taken as a threat to your health and well being, what if he contracted aids or another deadly disease?
I certainly would NOT go w/o saying something to him. He does DESERVE to KNOW that you did see him, that you DO KNOW what he's been up to. I'll be darned if I would keep that to myself. He does deserve to be ';called'; on that, %26amp; NOT to let him get away scott free w/o saying anything to him. He surely deserves to know that you are fully away of what he's been up to, %26amp; the very reason he's disappointed %26amp; hurt you like he has. Do NOT let him get away w/it, he's really stooping very LOW to do a thing like that against you. You really should look him straight in the eyes %26amp; tell him just what you saw. Let him feel some hurt too, if he even could. Best to you...:)
Sounds like you are handling it well, maturely and calm. It is really surorising to see a woman handle infedelity like this.
My ex wife once thought I was cheating on her and beated me up, funny thing cause she was the one who cheated and ended the marriage. But kudos to you.
this would best be answered in the form of a song by Lil Wayne..
ahem........
';she knows it's wrong, she knows i'm from the streets and all she wants me to do is fuc the police';
a snipit from Lil Wayne's.. Mrs. Officer..
Hi Val.. ;)
So how reliable is your source of this information? Failing to confront is failure in the marriage on your part. If you can't investigate to know the truth then perhaps you should avoid relationships completely.
I don't know what you would do, but I would feel greatly betrayed, completed embarrassed, and absolutely ashamed...and I would certainly not be having sex with him again. Who knows what kind of disease he may have.
Marriage should be based on trust..You cannot trust him...Just remember a divorce is not about ';who keeps the children';. His infidelity makes him a bad husband, but does it make him a bad father??
OMG I am laughing...TRIXIE is quoting Lil' Wayne now I have heard EVERYTHING!
LMFAO!
Didn't I see you on Cheaters?
yeap leave and make him suffer
What do I with my divorce papers served by my husband's lawyer?
My husband filled for divorce. I was served the divorce papers from his attorney. We both want this divorce and my husband promissed to pay all fees and support to me.
I am confused because his lawyer is asking me to pay the attorney fees and cost and terminate to award a spousal support.
I feel they are playing a game with me.
What I should do? Please advice.What do I with my divorce papers served by my husband's lawyer?
Do NOT do a thing until YOU consult an atty. Funny how things are so different %26amp; chg. so much as soon as you get an attys. hands on things! Leave it to an atty. to completely chg. things from what you'd originally planned on doing. This does NOT surprise me in the least, it's something a typical atty. would just do. As in, ';make the other one pay';, don't let her off that easily! Typical move by an atty. Now you are going to have to hire an atty. to fight these things, when it could have been done so much easier. I once was a legal sec., so I'm familiar w/the way they do work. They sure can turn things around into pure GREED for ';their clients';. I'm SURE if you just fight it, the tables WILL turn around for YOU. Just ashame he had to go %26amp; do this AGAINST you. DO take it to an atty. tho %26amp; you'll end up being OK. Try NOT to get upset about it tho, yes, I realize easier said than done, BUT, I do feel things WILL work out OK for you in the end. I do wish you the best, %26amp; a brighter future for you...:)What do I with my divorce papers served by my husband's lawyer?
He said a bunch of things in order for you to agree to the divorce. He got a sneaky lawyer who is teaching him to play dirty.
Whatever you do, do not sign the papers. If you sign them then you are legally binding to them; you will lose spousal support support and be required to pay the fees.
Unfortunately, its no longer an uncontested divorce. The only way to get this finalized, and to protect yourself, is to get a lawyer yourself.
Honey get an attorney fast. His attorney is there to protect him not you. Get you own and ask that since he filed he have to pay cost.
On the subject of spousal support, my opinion is that a couple years to help someone get on their feet and get a job should be sufficient for most. There are times when it should be extended, but supporting someone the rest of their life just doesn't seem right.
Was the promise made in written? Why the Lawyer of your husband, should ask you for Attorny Fees %26amp; Cost from you? It should be borne by your estranged Husband. In the Capacity of Lawyer, it is a legitimate demand for Termination of Award of Spousal Support, for his Client, even if the Client has promised in written. That much authority The Lawyer has!
You should take the papers to your own lawyer to review before you sign anything. His lawyer has probably helped him realize that he doesn't have to give you anything without a fight, and you could be giving up your fight without realizing it by signing those papers.
If that's what it says in the paperwork then it doesn't sound like he's paying for everything......You need a lawyer too. Sorry. Divorce is expensive. I'm up to 10K right now for the last 6 months of custody battles for a divorce that happened almost 3 years ago.
DO NOT trust anyone (especially your husband's lawyer ) . Get yourself an attorney to make sure you are not being screwed over .
It DEFINITELY sounds like your husbands attorney is looking to screw you over real good . GET YOURSELF AN ATTORNEY!!!!!
Sign the papers and then you can realize it's over and move on to something else. Pay it, peace of mind is worth more then the fees.
Follow the African Queen's advice She is 100% right.
Do not sign the papers!
Get a lawyer and arrange a meeting
GET A LAWYER!!!!
His lawyer is doing what all attorney's do - trying to get the most for HIS client because that means the lawyer gets more money in his pocket at the end...
GET A LAWYER!!!!
Hire a lawyer.
Get a lawyer to advise you!
get a lawyer and have her look at it with you
tell your lawyer what he said
I am confused because his lawyer is asking me to pay the attorney fees and cost and terminate to award a spousal support.
I feel they are playing a game with me.
What I should do? Please advice.What do I with my divorce papers served by my husband's lawyer?
Do NOT do a thing until YOU consult an atty. Funny how things are so different %26amp; chg. so much as soon as you get an attys. hands on things! Leave it to an atty. to completely chg. things from what you'd originally planned on doing. This does NOT surprise me in the least, it's something a typical atty. would just do. As in, ';make the other one pay';, don't let her off that easily! Typical move by an atty. Now you are going to have to hire an atty. to fight these things, when it could have been done so much easier. I once was a legal sec., so I'm familiar w/the way they do work. They sure can turn things around into pure GREED for ';their clients';. I'm SURE if you just fight it, the tables WILL turn around for YOU. Just ashame he had to go %26amp; do this AGAINST you. DO take it to an atty. tho %26amp; you'll end up being OK. Try NOT to get upset about it tho, yes, I realize easier said than done, BUT, I do feel things WILL work out OK for you in the end. I do wish you the best, %26amp; a brighter future for you...:)What do I with my divorce papers served by my husband's lawyer?
He said a bunch of things in order for you to agree to the divorce. He got a sneaky lawyer who is teaching him to play dirty.
Whatever you do, do not sign the papers. If you sign them then you are legally binding to them; you will lose spousal support support and be required to pay the fees.
Unfortunately, its no longer an uncontested divorce. The only way to get this finalized, and to protect yourself, is to get a lawyer yourself.
Honey get an attorney fast. His attorney is there to protect him not you. Get you own and ask that since he filed he have to pay cost.
On the subject of spousal support, my opinion is that a couple years to help someone get on their feet and get a job should be sufficient for most. There are times when it should be extended, but supporting someone the rest of their life just doesn't seem right.
Was the promise made in written? Why the Lawyer of your husband, should ask you for Attorny Fees %26amp; Cost from you? It should be borne by your estranged Husband. In the Capacity of Lawyer, it is a legitimate demand for Termination of Award of Spousal Support, for his Client, even if the Client has promised in written. That much authority The Lawyer has!
You should take the papers to your own lawyer to review before you sign anything. His lawyer has probably helped him realize that he doesn't have to give you anything without a fight, and you could be giving up your fight without realizing it by signing those papers.
If that's what it says in the paperwork then it doesn't sound like he's paying for everything......You need a lawyer too. Sorry. Divorce is expensive. I'm up to 10K right now for the last 6 months of custody battles for a divorce that happened almost 3 years ago.
DO NOT trust anyone (especially your husband's lawyer ) . Get yourself an attorney to make sure you are not being screwed over .
It DEFINITELY sounds like your husbands attorney is looking to screw you over real good . GET YOURSELF AN ATTORNEY!!!!!
Sign the papers and then you can realize it's over and move on to something else. Pay it, peace of mind is worth more then the fees.
Follow the African Queen's advice She is 100% right.
Do not sign the papers!
Get a lawyer and arrange a meeting
GET A LAWYER!!!!
His lawyer is doing what all attorney's do - trying to get the most for HIS client because that means the lawyer gets more money in his pocket at the end...
GET A LAWYER!!!!
Hire a lawyer.
Get a lawyer to advise you!
get a lawyer and have her look at it with you
tell your lawyer what he said
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