He and his whole family have had doubts for years, but he worries about upsetting everyone if he asks for a paternity test. He'd like peace of mind either way- but worried about how he'll look to his son. Should my husband feel bad about asking for a paternity test for his son from a previous relationship?
I cannot help but think of how this would hurt the child (if he is not the dad). I mean, what happens then? Would your husband then ask to stop paying support? Would his ex then say ';okay, then you can't see him anymore, since he is not yours';?
It sounds like a lot of potential harm to the son can come from this. Is THAT worth the money he would save in child support?
If it isn't about saving child support money, then wait until the kid is old enough to understand (18?) more.
All the best,
JShould my husband feel bad about asking for a paternity test for his son from a previous relationship?
my husband wont get one. his daughter lives in ireland. she only has his eyes...or his ex slept with a brown eyed man!!! I wish he would get one. maybe one day he will do it. but atleast yours isnt so nieve. my husband is afraid of the outcome. his exact words were what if she wasnt mine.... how would i ever look at her the same!
The child does not need to know, and he could still stay in the child's life- but if he is paying child support for a child that is not his, that isn't fair, to him or to you.
Well is the kid old enough to understand? If he loves the child then it really shouldn't matter. It isn't worth hurting the child and their bond. Most likely some resentment will stem from this situation.
No you gotta do what you gotta do.
He should just ask. He should have done it a long time ago if he had doubts.
If he loves this boy as his own son then it shouldn't matter if he is the real dad or not.
No he shouldn't feel bad. When in doubt, check it out. He could be giving money away to a child that isn't his!
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