Why is he forcing an open marriage on me when he knows I'm trying to fix this broken marriage for our kids.Why is my husband forcing open marriage on me just to keep mistress?
he isn't.... you are letting him.
get a divorce... and get rid of this LOWLIFE SCUM.
you don't stay married for the sake of the kids..... only does more harm than good.Why is my husband forcing open marriage on me just to keep mistress?
You aren't being forced into anything. You are willingly staying married to him. You rightfully could sue him for abandonment.
He had shown his true feelings that he is not in love with you and he does not want to be married to you.
It sounds like you are in denial and think you are holding something together, ';for the sake of the kids.';
And what is the reality that you are showing your children? By your lack of self-defense you are showing them that a man can abandon his responsibilites and turn his back on his obligations. You are showing your kids that a woman can be humiliated by a husband that walks out on her. What are you really teaching the children with your behavior.
A strong self--loving human being would sue the husband for divorce, get alimony, custody and child support.
That bum is trying to get out of your life. Let him!
First of all if he moved out 2yrs ago to be with the other woman you can't fix it any more because he doesn't want to.
As for the open marriage thing. He wants it that way so he doesn't loose in the divorce. He knows you have grounds to file for divorce IE he committed adultery. You could probably take him to the cleaners so to speak, which means he would loose a lot of money and then the **** would leave him.
While I do believe that children are better off with a mother and father that are still together, this is not such a case where I would advise the marriage to continue.
He wants his cake and to be able to eat it too. Either roll with it or divorce him. It doesn't sound like he's coming back and why would he when he has the mistress for fun %26amp;games and little to no obligation for supporting you %26amp; the kids. Trying to save a marriage for the sake of the kids will only backfire. All that will accomplish is making the kids feel like they caused this and make them (and you) miserable while hubby is out having a blast. Teach your children that there is a better life out there, be an adult role model and be strong, get out for your sake and the kids sake.
You answered your own question. ';to keep mistress.';
This is not an ';open'; marriage. This cannot be fixed. This isn't good for your kids.
Metaphorically speaking, you need to grow a set! File for divorce, sue for child support and take everything you can get. Get a good lawyer to take him to the cleaners. Get on with your life. Eventually, you will find someone worthy of you. Be free to pursue it. This relationship is dead. Give it a proper burial.
Sorry if that sounds harsh, but it's the truth.
If he moved out, then i'd assume he's finished with the marriage
Maybe it's time to start taking care of you and those kids exclusively, and stop waiting for someone who has shown absolutely no respect for his entire family.
If you are struggling with all of this, perhaps consider talking with a therapist to gain some insight into your life and to figure out what direction you might need to take to find your own happiness.
Your husband is a jack a s s
Wow, you are seriously deluded. Your marriage ended the first time your husband dropped his pants in another woman's bedroom. Stop trying to fix something that is broken beyond repair. You claim to do this for your kids, well if you really wanted to do what they needed, you'd get divorced and focus your energy on building a future for yourself and them. As opposed to running after a guy who has made it clear that he doesn't want you. What sort of an example do you think you're setting for your kids? Wake up and smell the coffee.
You are forcing this on yourself. He is having fun with his new mistress/girlfriend. Do you need a rock to fall onto your head to know this marriage is over? He doesn't want to save your marriage. Face facts and move on. It is not helping your kids at all to be married to this man. You are teaching your kids to have no self-respect and to be a fool. I am sorry to have to be so harsh, but you need to face reality. Good luck!
Could it be his way of getting out of paying child support and alimony? Think about it, what does he need you for? If there's no sex and he's not living with you, He basically doing what he wants and doesn't care if you like it or not.
So the Question is, what are YOU gonna do about it? Don't say you want to save your marriage for your kids. Don't use your kids as an excuse for not doing anything. Whether you guys are together or not, both of you are their parents and nothing going to change that. So, are you ready for a change? Or are you content to live like this?
A marriage is a partnership - no one can force an open marriage on anyone. If you don't like it, grow a spine and divorce his ***. You're not doing your kids any favors, you're just going to give them a really awful example of what a normal relationship should be like.
Break up with him its over !!!! get child support off him '; he will have to pay!'; get half his **** and start over your kids deserve better than this man! What kind, loving, supportive man does that??????? None he is a complete arss start fresh you deserve it your children deserve it! Be strong !!!!!!
It's obvious that he really doesn't want to be with you,but will stay for the kids,but will be with the person he really wants to be with.You either need to accept it or move on.
divorce him. you have grounds for divorce. you call it open marriage, but the law calls it adultery. that is crazy.
you are a doormat, ummmmmm he doesn't want you divorce him and he doesnt want to have sex with....so open marriage is perfect for him.
why dont you get some self respect and leave him alone.
He's a jerk, trying to have the best of both worlds. Don't let him, you will regret it in the end...he'll only leave her when he's ready, which is disrespectful and a total waste of your time.
you need to move on young lady. he obviously doesnt care about you or them right now. is he addicted to drugs?? that could be a big part of it
There is no such thing as an open marriage. Get a divorce
Doesn't care anymore
Love is Dead
Killed in a Car accident somewhere
IT SEEMS TO ME THERE IS NOTHING TO FIX, SIGN THE PAPERS
He is a selfish jerk.
divorce his ***
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