She is 57 years old and will be graduating in December with a Bachelor's degree in business. We are very proud of her. She already has a job in the medical field. She just wanted to do this for herself. What would make a good gift?What would make a good graduation gift for my husband's mother?
Get her a really nice fountain pen or a briefcase. Something that will help her out in her day to day business.What would make a good graduation gift for my husband's mother?
I think a nice piece of jewelry, something special, like the other poster said, earrings or even a nice watch. A watch she can use everyday and you can get the back engraved. I would get it a little more fancier than just a normal everyday watch though and I defintely would have it engraved if you go with it.
I would go with something special. Being this is something that she did for herself, it's a big deal, it's a goal that she's wanted for herself and she did! It's awesome! Maybe a trip, a ticket for a cruise for her to take some time to relax now, but I would still want to give her something to mark this big occasion in her life.
I would go with a piece of jewelry and have it engraved. Maybe a necklace, watch, something. You can also get her something for her desk at work.
You can have a family portrait done with her in her cap and gown, get it enlarged and give her that. Call and photographer in and when she's given her cap and gown being she can keep it, set up an appt. and have her in it and take a family portrait, but tell her she must wear her cap and gown and have it framed for her. Each family can get a copy, but give her the biggest one framed. I'm sure that she would love being her family is in it and she's in her graduation attire!
I hope some of these ideas help.
You could get something customized for her like a really nice portofolio bag...something she could use in her new field. I would take a look on http://www.universityfashions.com They have a number of products that can be customized with embroidery designs.
Good Luck!
If she doesn't have a pda, that would be a good gift. Or a gift cert to a store that sells clothes she will need for her job.
Good for her!!
how about order qdolls?
you can visit this link to see detail!
Special Gift, Unique Gift
http://www.qdolls.com
A great pair of earrings in gold or a gold charm engraved with her initials and grad date that she can wear on a chain.
Wonderful for her!
A nice pen
Either from Schaffer, Blaupunkt, or Cartier
Make it one of the Collector items
...
Tuesday, August 24, 2010
Should my husband stop drinking coffee while trying to get pregnant?
Hi my name is Mindy I have read that women trying to conceive should not have caffeine I only drink water and juice hardly anything with caffeine. Should my husband stop drinking coffee and stuff with caffeine in it while we are try?Should my husband stop drinking coffee while trying to get pregnant?
One cup a day will not affect the fertility of you or your husband. Relax and enjoy all the practice. When you finally do get pregnant you are going to wish you had time for more sex!! :)Should my husband stop drinking coffee while trying to get pregnant?
I have heard that ideally, both men %26amp; women should cut out caffeine when TTC'ing. I have personally decided to cut out caffiene myself (which is awful!! oh, I am such a Diet Coke addict), but my husband has not. He still drinks coffee regularly and I don't think he'd be too crazy about the idea of cutting it. If we have trouble with TTC'ing after several months though, I won't give him an option. :)
Actually they say coffee for men is good when trying to get preggers, it makes the ';boys'; swim faster and longer. It is not good for women to drink though when trying because of the caffine.
no.
One cup a day will not affect the fertility of you or your husband. Relax and enjoy all the practice. When you finally do get pregnant you are going to wish you had time for more sex!! :)Should my husband stop drinking coffee while trying to get pregnant?
I have heard that ideally, both men %26amp; women should cut out caffeine when TTC'ing. I have personally decided to cut out caffiene myself (which is awful!! oh, I am such a Diet Coke addict), but my husband has not. He still drinks coffee regularly and I don't think he'd be too crazy about the idea of cutting it. If we have trouble with TTC'ing after several months though, I won't give him an option. :)
Actually they say coffee for men is good when trying to get preggers, it makes the ';boys'; swim faster and longer. It is not good for women to drink though when trying because of the caffine.
no.
What would make a good graduation gift for my husband's mother?
She is 57 years old and will be graduating in December with a Bachelor's degree in business. We are very proud of her. She already has a job in the medical field. She just wanted to do this for herself. What would make a good gift?What would make a good graduation gift for my husband's mother?
Get her a really nice fountain pen or a briefcase. Something that will help her out in her day to day business.What would make a good graduation gift for my husband's mother?
I think a nice piece of jewelry, something special, like the other poster said, earrings or even a nice watch. A watch she can use everyday and you can get the back engraved. I would get it a little more fancier than just a normal everyday watch though and I defintely would have it engraved if you go with it.
I would go with something special. Being this is something that she did for herself, it's a big deal, it's a goal that she's wanted for herself and she did! It's awesome! Maybe a trip, a ticket for a cruise for her to take some time to relax now, but I would still want to give her something to mark this big occasion in her life.
I would go with a piece of jewelry and have it engraved. Maybe a necklace, watch, something. You can also get her something for her desk at work.
You can have a family portrait done with her in her cap and gown, get it enlarged and give her that. Call and photographer in and when she's given her cap and gown being she can keep it, set up an appt. and have her in it and take a family portrait, but tell her she must wear her cap and gown and have it framed for her. Each family can get a copy, but give her the biggest one framed. I'm sure that she would love being her family is in it and she's in her graduation attire!
I hope some of these ideas help.
You could get something customized for her like a really nice portofolio bag...something she could use in her new field. I would take a look on http://www.universityfashions.com They have a number of products that can be customized with embroidery designs.
Good Luck!
If she doesn't have a pda, that would be a good gift. Or a gift cert to a store that sells clothes she will need for her job.
Good for her!!
how about order qdolls?
you can visit this link to see detail!
Special Gift, Unique Gift
http://www.qdolls.com
A great pair of earrings in gold or a gold charm engraved with her initials and grad date that she can wear on a chain.
Wonderful for her!
A nice pen
Either from Schaffer, Blaupunkt, or Cartier
Make it one of the Collector items
...
Get her a really nice fountain pen or a briefcase. Something that will help her out in her day to day business.What would make a good graduation gift for my husband's mother?
I think a nice piece of jewelry, something special, like the other poster said, earrings or even a nice watch. A watch she can use everyday and you can get the back engraved. I would get it a little more fancier than just a normal everyday watch though and I defintely would have it engraved if you go with it.
I would go with something special. Being this is something that she did for herself, it's a big deal, it's a goal that she's wanted for herself and she did! It's awesome! Maybe a trip, a ticket for a cruise for her to take some time to relax now, but I would still want to give her something to mark this big occasion in her life.
I would go with a piece of jewelry and have it engraved. Maybe a necklace, watch, something. You can also get her something for her desk at work.
You can have a family portrait done with her in her cap and gown, get it enlarged and give her that. Call and photographer in and when she's given her cap and gown being she can keep it, set up an appt. and have her in it and take a family portrait, but tell her she must wear her cap and gown and have it framed for her. Each family can get a copy, but give her the biggest one framed. I'm sure that she would love being her family is in it and she's in her graduation attire!
I hope some of these ideas help.
You could get something customized for her like a really nice portofolio bag...something she could use in her new field. I would take a look on http://www.universityfashions.com They have a number of products that can be customized with embroidery designs.
Good Luck!
If she doesn't have a pda, that would be a good gift. Or a gift cert to a store that sells clothes she will need for her job.
Good for her!!
how about order qdolls?
you can visit this link to see detail!
Special Gift, Unique Gift
http://www.qdolls.com
A great pair of earrings in gold or a gold charm engraved with her initials and grad date that she can wear on a chain.
Wonderful for her!
A nice pen
Either from Schaffer, Blaupunkt, or Cartier
Make it one of the Collector items
...
Should my husband stop drinking coffee while trying to get pregnant?
Hi my name is Mindy I have read that women trying to conceive should not have caffeine I only drink water and juice hardly anything with caffeine. Should my husband stop drinking coffee and stuff with caffeine in it while we are try?Should my husband stop drinking coffee while trying to get pregnant?
One cup a day will not affect the fertility of you or your husband. Relax and enjoy all the practice. When you finally do get pregnant you are going to wish you had time for more sex!! :)Should my husband stop drinking coffee while trying to get pregnant?
I have heard that ideally, both men %26amp; women should cut out caffeine when TTC'ing. I have personally decided to cut out caffiene myself (which is awful!! oh, I am such a Diet Coke addict), but my husband has not. He still drinks coffee regularly and I don't think he'd be too crazy about the idea of cutting it. If we have trouble with TTC'ing after several months though, I won't give him an option. :)
Actually they say coffee for men is good when trying to get preggers, it makes the ';boys'; swim faster and longer. It is not good for women to drink though when trying because of the caffine.
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One cup a day will not affect the fertility of you or your husband. Relax and enjoy all the practice. When you finally do get pregnant you are going to wish you had time for more sex!! :)Should my husband stop drinking coffee while trying to get pregnant?
I have heard that ideally, both men %26amp; women should cut out caffeine when TTC'ing. I have personally decided to cut out caffiene myself (which is awful!! oh, I am such a Diet Coke addict), but my husband has not. He still drinks coffee regularly and I don't think he'd be too crazy about the idea of cutting it. If we have trouble with TTC'ing after several months though, I won't give him an option. :)
Actually they say coffee for men is good when trying to get preggers, it makes the ';boys'; swim faster and longer. It is not good for women to drink though when trying because of the caffine.
no.
If my husband smokes will that hurt the baby at conception?
My husband smokes, I don't. He never smokes in the house or anything. He is definitely going to quit before the baby is born but I'm worried about whether it is bad for conceiving when he smokes. Will there be nicotine in the sperm? Will that hurt the baby?
Please give a credible reference with your answer. Thanks!If my husband smokes will that hurt the baby at conception?
It could make it more difficult for you to conceive a child. The sperm may not bind tightly to the egg leading to actual fertilization. There is also concern about smoking damaging the DNA of the sperm and in turn passing damaged DNA onto the child.
Good luck!If my husband smokes will that hurt the baby at conception?
the second hand smoke is a class A carcinogen (like mustard gas, used in WWII to torture and kill)
there are seemingly endless side effects
the ';crap'; in cigarettes (ie formaldehyde, lead, arsenic, benzene, and radioactive polonium 210) goes all thru the smokers system; i wouldn't doubt it affects your endocrine system
check it out
If he was smoking at the time that you became pregnant, then yes there is nicotine in the sperm.
I don't have a reference, but i still would like to help. From what I learnt in my time with a-level biology, i think the worst it will do for the male is reduce his sperm count. If it causes any defect in the sperm then it will not affect the genetics it carries but the structure of the sex cell. This means that only the healthy ones will get a chance at the ova. The mother is the only one able to damage the baby thru pregnancy with smoking because the nicotine isn't completely filter through the placenta and will reach the babies bloodstream
You are paranoid. Also don't be surprised if you husband can't quit before the baby is born. Its a stressful time for the guy. and that makes it a hard time to quit a habit. Be supportive of him especially if he's really trying.
No, it won't hurt the baby. Nicotine can affect his sperm count, but it won't hurt the baby if he smokes at the time of conception. Obviously you don't want to breathe a bunch of second hand smoke once you're pregnant, but it sounds like you already know that. My dad smoked when all of the kids in our family were conceived and my brother and sisters and I were all fine. Good luck!
i dont think so, cause so many men smoke and
have kids.
And nothing,
= ]
Yes. Your baby will be underdeveloped and will grow up as ';the slow kid';. Make him stop.
Please give a credible reference with your answer. Thanks!If my husband smokes will that hurt the baby at conception?
It could make it more difficult for you to conceive a child. The sperm may not bind tightly to the egg leading to actual fertilization. There is also concern about smoking damaging the DNA of the sperm and in turn passing damaged DNA onto the child.
Good luck!If my husband smokes will that hurt the baby at conception?
the second hand smoke is a class A carcinogen (like mustard gas, used in WWII to torture and kill)
there are seemingly endless side effects
the ';crap'; in cigarettes (ie formaldehyde, lead, arsenic, benzene, and radioactive polonium 210) goes all thru the smokers system; i wouldn't doubt it affects your endocrine system
check it out
If he was smoking at the time that you became pregnant, then yes there is nicotine in the sperm.
I don't have a reference, but i still would like to help. From what I learnt in my time with a-level biology, i think the worst it will do for the male is reduce his sperm count. If it causes any defect in the sperm then it will not affect the genetics it carries but the structure of the sex cell. This means that only the healthy ones will get a chance at the ova. The mother is the only one able to damage the baby thru pregnancy with smoking because the nicotine isn't completely filter through the placenta and will reach the babies bloodstream
You are paranoid. Also don't be surprised if you husband can't quit before the baby is born. Its a stressful time for the guy. and that makes it a hard time to quit a habit. Be supportive of him especially if he's really trying.
No, it won't hurt the baby. Nicotine can affect his sperm count, but it won't hurt the baby if he smokes at the time of conception. Obviously you don't want to breathe a bunch of second hand smoke once you're pregnant, but it sounds like you already know that. My dad smoked when all of the kids in our family were conceived and my brother and sisters and I were all fine. Good luck!
i dont think so, cause so many men smoke and
have kids.
And nothing,
= ]
Yes. Your baby will be underdeveloped and will grow up as ';the slow kid';. Make him stop.
Do you the difference between Former Husband and Ex-husband?
The usage of Former and Ex . is confusing me. Is there any difference between Firmer President and Ex-President like that .Do you the difference between Former Husband and Ex-husband?
';Former'; is a little more proper if you will, as far as language goes. ';Ex'; is just what we all usually say. ';Ex'; in my opinion is a sort of main-stream American slang term.Do you the difference between Former Husband and Ex-husband?
I myself prefer X husband tho at this point and time in my life both of them sound wonderful to me...as long as we don't talk about him.....
They are synonyms
Former husband sounds a bit more polite and formal, ';ex'; sounds more casual, colloquial, or abrupt. They usually are interchangable and mean the husband you divorced. However, if your first husband died and you remarried, the first one would be your former husband, but not your ex-husband to my thinking, because you never divorced him.
In the case of a ';former'; president, that's anyone who served as president in the past. I've not heard ';ex-president,'; but that sounds harsher, like if someone was fired from being president.
well, if you say exex husband its the husband you had before the one you had before, if you say former husband its the one you had last
I think they are synonyms--means the same thing. Ex is a prefix for former.
';Former'; is a little more proper if you will, as far as language goes. ';Ex'; is just what we all usually say. ';Ex'; in my opinion is a sort of main-stream American slang term.Do you the difference between Former Husband and Ex-husband?
I myself prefer X husband tho at this point and time in my life both of them sound wonderful to me...as long as we don't talk about him.....
They are synonyms
Former husband sounds a bit more polite and formal, ';ex'; sounds more casual, colloquial, or abrupt. They usually are interchangable and mean the husband you divorced. However, if your first husband died and you remarried, the first one would be your former husband, but not your ex-husband to my thinking, because you never divorced him.
In the case of a ';former'; president, that's anyone who served as president in the past. I've not heard ';ex-president,'; but that sounds harsher, like if someone was fired from being president.
well, if you say exex husband its the husband you had before the one you had before, if you say former husband its the one you had last
I think they are synonyms--means the same thing. Ex is a prefix for former.
If my husband and I join the military together, can we be kept together through out our whole military carrer?
If we join together can be request to not be separated?If my husband and I join the military together, can we be kept together through out our whole military carrer?
If you join the AF you can... my husband and I go everywhere together, even our deployments. Our squadron works with us on whatever we want to do. We have been on two deployments together and the AF doesn't separate married couples, unless of couse you ask for it.If my husband and I join the military together, can we be kept together through out our whole military carrer?
Very very unlikely, since you are a female then you aren't allowed to
join a unit that is in combat. Your husband however could become a marine,which are the first people to be deployed, and be seperated from you while you stay doing your job at a different base. You might be able to request to be stationed at the same bases, honestly I don't think it will happen though. Also if you guys want to stay together then you have to pick the same branch of the military because if you choose to be an army technician and he is in the air force, then he will be sent to an air force base and you will be sent to an army base.
Hope this helps
There is an Army program that will help you get assigned together, but understand there is NO GUARANTEE you always will be assigned together. The Married Army Couples Program (MACP) is a program designed to help ensure Soldiers married to other Soldiers are considered for joint domicile assignments. MACP was established to help alleviate some of the problems by trying, WHEN POSSIBLE, to assign married couples at the same location. The goal of the program is to ensure that MACP Soldiers are considered for assignment together as often as possible. Again, no guarantee.
The Air Force makes similar reasonable attempts, but again no guarantee. I don't know about the other services.
http://usmilitary.about.com/od/army/a/du鈥?/a>
absolutely NOT. spousal co location is NEVER guaranteed. and that also means you can and will deploy on opposite schedules .
they try. the NEVER promise. in fact most of our Dual militray friends have spent at least half their careers separated. Japan and Germany, Monterey and Bremerton, ev n the two stationed in San Diego together were apart.. one command relieved the other on deployment so they went a year without seeing one another. .
My wife and I are both Active duty Army. Funny thing is, her name is Amanda Elizabeth and her Yahoo name is Mandabeth...lol
I can answer for the Army with personally experience and for the Air Force through my cousin who is Active duty Air Force as well as her husband.
You have a pretty good chance of being ablet to stay together for your whole career, depending on your MOS that you both choose. As long as you choose MOS's that are widely used job, like mechanic or something like that, then it increases. Overall, it is pretty easy in the Army for this to happen. The Army has the Married Army Couples Program (MACP) and the Air Force has thier equal to that.
It does not guarantee that you will for sure be assigned at the same place each time, but when one of you comes up for orders, they do see that both of you are married and are on active duty so they will contact the other's branch manager to see if there is a place that both can go. My wife and I have had the same assignments each time we have recieved orders. The only time that we weren't together was when we were deployed. We are in the same brigade, so we went at the same time, we were just at a different base than each other. If we were to be at the same base, we would have been able to actually live together.
To go a little further and answer you second question, YES you can request not to be seperated, but you can also request to be deployed at different times. This is mainly for couples that have a children or dependents at home and want to make sure that there is always at least one parent at home with the kids. But I am sure that you two are wanting to stay together, so you can make that request on your Army Knowledge Online in the Assignment Satisfation Key. They will also ask you about your preference when you are at the reception station when you attend basic training.
As for the Air Force, they have a programs sort of like the Army's. My cousing and her husband are both part of it and they both have gotten stationed together at the same base.
As for the other branches, I don't know. I figure that it wouldn't be too hard because there are only a couple or even a handful of places taht you can go, and usually each of those places have a big assortment of the jobs posted there.
Good luck and I hope it all works out for you
You can request it... if they can or want to, they will keep you together.
But if he's an MP or a combat MOS and you work in the medical field (for example), then you have a better chance of being separated.
But if you both are in similar MOS's, then it's more possible to stay together
Probably Not! The military puts you where they military needs you.
You can however enroll in the Married Army Couples Program, (if you guys go Army,) which whenever the senior person gets orders to move, they will see if they can slot you in the same base..
Don't hold your breath doll...
The military will take reasonable efforts to make sure that you are not ';separated'; but that does not imply a guarantee. Depending on the service(s) you join the military's efforts may be futile. They will not allow you to serve in the same command.
actually, yes. any recruiter worth his weight in s**t would be able to give you all the info you could need on this program. i cant remember the name but i know for a fact that it happens all the time. actually, its quite rare for this not to happen this way.
The services try to make that happen, it is not a guarantee that y'all be at the same posts all the time. If you are thinking of a long service, then y'all should be prepared to be apart for awhile.
no the chances are very unlikely because different units deploy at different times.
If you join the AF you can... my husband and I go everywhere together, even our deployments. Our squadron works with us on whatever we want to do. We have been on two deployments together and the AF doesn't separate married couples, unless of couse you ask for it.If my husband and I join the military together, can we be kept together through out our whole military carrer?
Very very unlikely, since you are a female then you aren't allowed to
join a unit that is in combat. Your husband however could become a marine,which are the first people to be deployed, and be seperated from you while you stay doing your job at a different base. You might be able to request to be stationed at the same bases, honestly I don't think it will happen though. Also if you guys want to stay together then you have to pick the same branch of the military because if you choose to be an army technician and he is in the air force, then he will be sent to an air force base and you will be sent to an army base.
Hope this helps
There is an Army program that will help you get assigned together, but understand there is NO GUARANTEE you always will be assigned together. The Married Army Couples Program (MACP) is a program designed to help ensure Soldiers married to other Soldiers are considered for joint domicile assignments. MACP was established to help alleviate some of the problems by trying, WHEN POSSIBLE, to assign married couples at the same location. The goal of the program is to ensure that MACP Soldiers are considered for assignment together as often as possible. Again, no guarantee.
The Air Force makes similar reasonable attempts, but again no guarantee. I don't know about the other services.
http://usmilitary.about.com/od/army/a/du鈥?/a>
absolutely NOT. spousal co location is NEVER guaranteed. and that also means you can and will deploy on opposite schedules .
they try. the NEVER promise. in fact most of our Dual militray friends have spent at least half their careers separated. Japan and Germany, Monterey and Bremerton, ev n the two stationed in San Diego together were apart.. one command relieved the other on deployment so they went a year without seeing one another. .
My wife and I are both Active duty Army. Funny thing is, her name is Amanda Elizabeth and her Yahoo name is Mandabeth...lol
I can answer for the Army with personally experience and for the Air Force through my cousin who is Active duty Air Force as well as her husband.
You have a pretty good chance of being ablet to stay together for your whole career, depending on your MOS that you both choose. As long as you choose MOS's that are widely used job, like mechanic or something like that, then it increases. Overall, it is pretty easy in the Army for this to happen. The Army has the Married Army Couples Program (MACP) and the Air Force has thier equal to that.
It does not guarantee that you will for sure be assigned at the same place each time, but when one of you comes up for orders, they do see that both of you are married and are on active duty so they will contact the other's branch manager to see if there is a place that both can go. My wife and I have had the same assignments each time we have recieved orders. The only time that we weren't together was when we were deployed. We are in the same brigade, so we went at the same time, we were just at a different base than each other. If we were to be at the same base, we would have been able to actually live together.
To go a little further and answer you second question, YES you can request not to be seperated, but you can also request to be deployed at different times. This is mainly for couples that have a children or dependents at home and want to make sure that there is always at least one parent at home with the kids. But I am sure that you two are wanting to stay together, so you can make that request on your Army Knowledge Online in the Assignment Satisfation Key. They will also ask you about your preference when you are at the reception station when you attend basic training.
As for the Air Force, they have a programs sort of like the Army's. My cousing and her husband are both part of it and they both have gotten stationed together at the same base.
As for the other branches, I don't know. I figure that it wouldn't be too hard because there are only a couple or even a handful of places taht you can go, and usually each of those places have a big assortment of the jobs posted there.
Good luck and I hope it all works out for you
You can request it... if they can or want to, they will keep you together.
But if he's an MP or a combat MOS and you work in the medical field (for example), then you have a better chance of being separated.
But if you both are in similar MOS's, then it's more possible to stay together
Probably Not! The military puts you where they military needs you.
You can however enroll in the Married Army Couples Program, (if you guys go Army,) which whenever the senior person gets orders to move, they will see if they can slot you in the same base..
Don't hold your breath doll...
The military will take reasonable efforts to make sure that you are not ';separated'; but that does not imply a guarantee. Depending on the service(s) you join the military's efforts may be futile. They will not allow you to serve in the same command.
actually, yes. any recruiter worth his weight in s**t would be able to give you all the info you could need on this program. i cant remember the name but i know for a fact that it happens all the time. actually, its quite rare for this not to happen this way.
The services try to make that happen, it is not a guarantee that y'all be at the same posts all the time. If you are thinking of a long service, then y'all should be prepared to be apart for awhile.
no the chances are very unlikely because different units deploy at different times.
How do I determine how much tax benefit my husband will receive if my son and I are his dependants?
I am trying to figure out how many part time hours I can work before it becomes not worth it (in terms of tax paid and child care costs).How do I determine how much tax benefit my husband will receive if my son and I are his dependants?
This is not the best process since tax law changes from year to year. I keep running multiple scenarios in quicktax for taxation year 2006
Its not perfect, but it lets you get general and ballpark like numbers. The next best process would be to use software for tax year 2007, but that's not out yet.How do I determine how much tax benefit my husband will receive if my son and I are his dependants?
He can only claim one dependant for The eligible Dependant or equivalent to spouse amount. Being married, he can only claim you. Children can only be claimed and receive an amount for if the taxpayer is single. But childcare, medical, ect can still be claimed.
Either get tax software. Its really easy to use, or go to a tax preparer like HR Block. They don't charge you until its done and they guarantee the highest refund.
You will need to have all of your information slips(T4s...) because every singe thing you enter changes the refund but those are not issued until next year.
Your best bet is to call the Canada Revenue Agency at 1-800-959-8281or go to their website (see source)
http://randomrantingravingandratings.blogspot.com/
This is not the best process since tax law changes from year to year. I keep running multiple scenarios in quicktax for taxation year 2006
Its not perfect, but it lets you get general and ballpark like numbers. The next best process would be to use software for tax year 2007, but that's not out yet.How do I determine how much tax benefit my husband will receive if my son and I are his dependants?
He can only claim one dependant for The eligible Dependant or equivalent to spouse amount. Being married, he can only claim you. Children can only be claimed and receive an amount for if the taxpayer is single. But childcare, medical, ect can still be claimed.
Either get tax software. Its really easy to use, or go to a tax preparer like HR Block. They don't charge you until its done and they guarantee the highest refund.
You will need to have all of your information slips(T4s...) because every singe thing you enter changes the refund but those are not issued until next year.
Your best bet is to call the Canada Revenue Agency at 1-800-959-8281or go to their website (see source)
http://randomrantingravingandratings.blogspot.com/
What is something special I could do for my husband?
For the past few days I've been in a mood. I've been kind of grumpy, so I want to do something special for my husband. Not sexual or cooking him dinner, but another idea. What special thing could I do?What is something special I could do for my husband?
you could give him a massage or you two could watch a movie together, even going dancing together may be fun if that's what you two enjoy.What is something special I could do for my husband?
Just tell him that you know you`ve been hard to live with these past few days- and that you love him so much for understanding your fears and foibles. Then ask him what treat you could give him/ do for him to give thanks for his loving you in spite of it and show how much you love him back.
Take him on a date. You drive, you pay, dress nicer than usual, make it special. And honestly sex at the end will make him forget anything negative you have done in the days before. You could probably start there and save yourself some money. LOL But I understand the need to want to do something special when you think you have hurt him.
Good Luck
u could od many things mam, first don't think like a woman, think like a man....i am usre there may be many request by ur husband...that u dont pay attention to....u may given him....every man or woman has a love language...talk in his love language....they could be
appreciation
acts of services
giving gifts
physical touch
or quality time
what is his...find out....and giv him what he wants....and now what u want to receive or give him
give him 拢100 beer money and tell him....
';go out with your mates and i dont mind what time you come back in';
;-)
edit - sorry but i cant help but think some of these answers are what YOU would enjoy doing girls....
get a picnic and go watch the sunset..
maybe you guys should just go the movies. Yeah i no its boring but time is the best gift you can give someone ? Or go to a concert ..
Felatio, no better answer
you could give him a massage or you two could watch a movie together, even going dancing together may be fun if that's what you two enjoy.What is something special I could do for my husband?
Just tell him that you know you`ve been hard to live with these past few days- and that you love him so much for understanding your fears and foibles. Then ask him what treat you could give him/ do for him to give thanks for his loving you in spite of it and show how much you love him back.
Take him on a date. You drive, you pay, dress nicer than usual, make it special. And honestly sex at the end will make him forget anything negative you have done in the days before. You could probably start there and save yourself some money. LOL But I understand the need to want to do something special when you think you have hurt him.
Good Luck
u could od many things mam, first don't think like a woman, think like a man....i am usre there may be many request by ur husband...that u dont pay attention to....u may given him....every man or woman has a love language...talk in his love language....they could be
appreciation
acts of services
giving gifts
physical touch
or quality time
what is his...find out....and giv him what he wants....and now what u want to receive or give him
give him 拢100 beer money and tell him....
';go out with your mates and i dont mind what time you come back in';
;-)
edit - sorry but i cant help but think some of these answers are what YOU would enjoy doing girls....
get a picnic and go watch the sunset..
maybe you guys should just go the movies. Yeah i no its boring but time is the best gift you can give someone ? Or go to a concert ..
Felatio, no better answer
Is there any wife out there that feels her husband deserves everything she does?
I have a sneaking suspicion that no matter what the husband does, the wife thinks he's not doing enough.
Is there any wife out there that feels her husband deserves everything she does?
Yes I do..We have been married 25 years and my husband deserves everything I do for him. He has always taken care of me and I try to do the same for him.. Is there any wife out there that feels her husband deserves everything she does?
I'm not married, nor do I have a boyfriend.. But I do love someone.
But my point..
I think when in marriage, there should be equal love. If I was married, Of course I would feel that my husband should deserves everything i do. To me, if my husband did something for me, I would feel like the most lucky person to have a guy like him.
i feel that way sometimes but then i realize that being there for me so much is awesome and that not everyone would be willing to put up with so much.. i am pregnant and he takes good care of me and most guys usually cheat hes here making sure im ok and loving me! =)
That is the sign you are married to a selfish *****.
Final test is do you go down on her and she doesn't go down on you.
YES I do. My husband is the ultimate sweet heart...he does alot for me and my son...he always tries to do his best and he deserves all the good things I do for him.
I think my partner deserves everything I do for him cause he does everything for me,
Your suspicions are right in some cases. I never think my husband does enough. But then again I guess watching TV all night is probably very strenuous.
99 percent of marriages end in divorce because. the husbands aren't doing what there wives wants them to do. those sexy cute little selfish things. true man can't live with them and visa verse.
no I think i deserve a whole lot more
i think my fiance does too much for me, have done for the whole 7 years we've been togetherbloom- top makeup
Is there any wife out there that feels her husband deserves everything she does?
Yes I do..We have been married 25 years and my husband deserves everything I do for him. He has always taken care of me and I try to do the same for him.. Is there any wife out there that feels her husband deserves everything she does?
I'm not married, nor do I have a boyfriend.. But I do love someone.
But my point..
I think when in marriage, there should be equal love. If I was married, Of course I would feel that my husband should deserves everything i do. To me, if my husband did something for me, I would feel like the most lucky person to have a guy like him.
i feel that way sometimes but then i realize that being there for me so much is awesome and that not everyone would be willing to put up with so much.. i am pregnant and he takes good care of me and most guys usually cheat hes here making sure im ok and loving me! =)
That is the sign you are married to a selfish *****.
Final test is do you go down on her and she doesn't go down on you.
YES I do. My husband is the ultimate sweet heart...he does alot for me and my son...he always tries to do his best and he deserves all the good things I do for him.
I think my partner deserves everything I do for him cause he does everything for me,
Your suspicions are right in some cases. I never think my husband does enough. But then again I guess watching TV all night is probably very strenuous.
99 percent of marriages end in divorce because. the husbands aren't doing what there wives wants them to do. those sexy cute little selfish things. true man can't live with them and visa verse.
no I think i deserve a whole lot more
i think my fiance does too much for me, have done for the whole 7 years we've been together
Why is Hilary Clinton so mad about having a husband who is active?
I mean, it may steal some attention but is being the centre of attention what her role is all about?Why is Hilary Clinton so mad about having a husband who is active?
I'm sure Hillary will forgive what ever Bill had to do to rescue those attractive young women.
What happens in Korea
Stays in Korea. ;-)Why is Hilary Clinton so mad about having a husband who is active?
Uk here. I was going to say I didn't know about her being cross and maybe it's because he's not at home often enough. Your talking about the way she seems to need lots of attention. If her husband is ok with it then its not your business. It is usually media looking for a front page story. I got it first, no I got it first.
he is off his chain now.
Do you think those polices were HIS when he was president???
He was just along for the sex and coke party.
While I still couldn't stand what bill did, in a way I can see his reasoning.
If I was married to that, I would be a stoned womanizer too....
That is why i cannot understand why she ran for president again.
Isnt that illegal?
She was already president for eight years...
Wasnt it her that said 'well, I wasnt at home baking cookies' (unless they were hash cookies).
She succeeded in insulting every house wife in America.
Edit: FYI, the 'reporters' captured by the north koreans were activists working for Al Gore's new, 'extreme news' network.
Lets see.... Bill was president, Al vice president....
They both hated Bush.
Clinton was in bed with North Korea when he was president.
'reporters' 'accidentally' stray across the border.
Bill 'miraculously' secures their 'release' from his old pal Kim Jong really ILL
If it looks and smells like a skunk, it probably is.
That's funny. Paid right wing shills are posting this all over the internet, but like most of the anti-American garbage coming out of the Republiconmen, there doesn't seem to be any truth behind it.
Why are you spreading such obvious falsehoods? What is your motivation? Why do you keep posting stuff that you know is false? What is it about American freedoms and democracy that you are so afraid of?
She is not. What she is understandably angry about is being asked what her husband thinks on an issue, when she is more qualified to answer the question from her own perspective!
Well ............ you have to keep in mind Slick Willy was ';active'; in the Oval Office when he was president ! Hillary wasn`t very happy about THAT when the news broke ! She`ll never live that one down ............
Hillary feels Slick has had his 15 minutes of ';fame'; and now it`s her turn ! Poor Slick .......... he can`t win whether he has his pants zipped up around his belly ............. or down around his ankles !
The student was misinterpreted by the interpreter and he told hillary afterwards that he actually meant to ask what president Obama thought of the matter. To show there was no hard feelings she shook hands with the student.
i think this is an assumption you made on your own. I don't recall her getting mad about this. In fact, it was probably staged. North Korea is a proxy.
She wasn't that angry, it must get annoying to be Mrs Bill Clinton when you're trying to be taken seriously.
It was quite a disrespectful question
Because she's a power hungry b*tch.
I'm sure Hillary will forgive what ever Bill had to do to rescue those attractive young women.
What happens in Korea
Stays in Korea. ;-)Why is Hilary Clinton so mad about having a husband who is active?
Uk here. I was going to say I didn't know about her being cross and maybe it's because he's not at home often enough. Your talking about the way she seems to need lots of attention. If her husband is ok with it then its not your business. It is usually media looking for a front page story. I got it first, no I got it first.
he is off his chain now.
Do you think those polices were HIS when he was president???
He was just along for the sex and coke party.
While I still couldn't stand what bill did, in a way I can see his reasoning.
If I was married to that, I would be a stoned womanizer too....
That is why i cannot understand why she ran for president again.
Isnt that illegal?
She was already president for eight years...
Wasnt it her that said 'well, I wasnt at home baking cookies' (unless they were hash cookies).
She succeeded in insulting every house wife in America.
Edit: FYI, the 'reporters' captured by the north koreans were activists working for Al Gore's new, 'extreme news' network.
Lets see.... Bill was president, Al vice president....
They both hated Bush.
Clinton was in bed with North Korea when he was president.
'reporters' 'accidentally' stray across the border.
Bill 'miraculously' secures their 'release' from his old pal Kim Jong really ILL
If it looks and smells like a skunk, it probably is.
That's funny. Paid right wing shills are posting this all over the internet, but like most of the anti-American garbage coming out of the Republiconmen, there doesn't seem to be any truth behind it.
Why are you spreading such obvious falsehoods? What is your motivation? Why do you keep posting stuff that you know is false? What is it about American freedoms and democracy that you are so afraid of?
She is not. What she is understandably angry about is being asked what her husband thinks on an issue, when she is more qualified to answer the question from her own perspective!
Well ............ you have to keep in mind Slick Willy was ';active'; in the Oval Office when he was president ! Hillary wasn`t very happy about THAT when the news broke ! She`ll never live that one down ............
Hillary feels Slick has had his 15 minutes of ';fame'; and now it`s her turn ! Poor Slick .......... he can`t win whether he has his pants zipped up around his belly ............. or down around his ankles !
The student was misinterpreted by the interpreter and he told hillary afterwards that he actually meant to ask what president Obama thought of the matter. To show there was no hard feelings she shook hands with the student.
i think this is an assumption you made on your own. I don't recall her getting mad about this. In fact, it was probably staged. North Korea is a proxy.
She wasn't that angry, it must get annoying to be Mrs Bill Clinton when you're trying to be taken seriously.
It was quite a disrespectful question
Because she's a power hungry b*tch.
Can you give me four super easy dinner ideas? that i can prepare in adavance for my husband.?
i will be gone and i don't think he can boil water. And he has a huge appetite. thanks in advance.Can you give me four super easy dinner ideas? that i can prepare in adavance for my husband.?
make dinners you normally would then just keep them in the freezer. he surely can use a microwave right? My hubby is the same way! I usually make baked ziti, enchiladas, hamburger helper, anything that just takes a few minutes to heat up in the microCan you give me four super easy dinner ideas? that i can prepare in adavance for my husband.?
all men love hamburger helper for some strange reason. also give him tv dinners. that is very easy. you can cook a big dinner before you leave and he can have left overs. and eggs. that is easy.
lasagna
chili
beef stew
can be frozen.
I put foods together in large ziplock bags that he can just throw in the crock pot and turn on. Pot roasts and italian style chicken breasts work well. I also do things like make and freeze meatballs in advance so all he has to do is throw them in the oven to warm them up. If he can't do much, he could order one or two large pizzas and just reheat the left overs. Canned soup is easy enough too.
Beef Pot Pies For Freezing
This recipe was developed by Consumers' Union for an August 1975 Consumers' Reports report on frozen individual-serve pot pies. It was the only pie judged excellent by their taste testers. This recipe makes eight pies and can be doubled. The published recipe notes that the ingredients cost was around $0.48 per pie (in 1975 US dollars). Notes Following Recipe By: Kenneth Herron
Filling
2 Lb. stew beef
2 Tbsp. flour
1 Medium onion
1/2 Clove garlic (or 1 tsp. garlic powder)
5 Tbsp. vegetable oil
4 Cubes beef bouillon
6 Cups water
3/4 tsp. salt
1/2 tsp. Worcestershire sauce
1/4 tsp. black pepper
med potatoes
1 c carrots
1 c frozen peas
Crust
2 c flour, sifted
1 tsp. salt
2/3 c vegetable shortening (not oil)
6 tbsp. water
Filling
Cut stew beef into 1/2-inch cubes. Dice the onion and mince the garlic.
Heat oil in a pot large enough to contain all ingredients, including the water. While it heats, coat beef with flour. Brown beef a few pieces at a time, removing each piece as it browns.
Add onion and garlic to pan drippings and cook, stirring occasionally, until the onion starts to turn transparent.
Add water and bouillon, then all other ingredients except the vegetables. Cover and heat to boiling. Reduce heat to a slow simmer and allow to cook around 1 1/2 hours, stirring occasionally.
While this cooks, chop potatoes and carrots into 1/4-1/2-inch chunks. At the end of the simmering time, stir in these ingredients and simmer 20 minutes more. Add peas and simmer 7 minutes more. Check beef and vegetables for tenderness and simmer longer if necessary.
Crust
Sift flour and salt into a 4-quart bowl. Cut in the shortening with a pastry cutter or two knives until reduced to pieces about the size of peas.
Sprinkle water over the flour, one tbsp. at a time, and stir in. Stop when dough is moist but not sticky.
Gather dough into a ball and divide into 8 pieces.
Assembling the pies:
Obtain 8 aluminum foil tart pans (they specify 5 inches in diameter and 1 1/4 inches tall; this size doesn't seem to be available any more). Divide the filling evenly among the pans; each pan should end up not quite full (chunks of food can stick up a bit above the top).
For each pie, roll out a piece of dough between two sheets of wax paper until it just covers the top of the pan. Peel it out of the waxed paper, place it on top of the pan, and pinch the crust around the edges so that it adheres. Punch a few holes in the center with a fork and lightly dust with flour.
Place each pan in a freezer bag and freeze.
Cooking a pie:
Preheat oven to 450 degrees.
Place still-frozen pie(s) on a cookie sheet and bake 40-45 minutes or until crust is well browned.
Cheesy Ham and Potatoes (Dinner Is Ready page 217)
1 24-ounce bag frozen shredded hash browns
1/2 cup minced onion
2 10.75-ounce cans cream of celery soup
1 8-ounce package cream cheese
1 1/2 cups Monterey Jack cheese, shredded
1 1/2 cups cubed ham
1/4 t pepper
Soften cream cheese and cream together with soup. Stir in onions, ham, Jack cheese and pepper. Break apart hash browns. Gently stir into cheese mixture. Place in gallon freezer bag. Label and freeze.
To serve: Thaw. Place in greased baking dish. Bake covered for 1 hour at 350掳. Uncover and top with shredded Cheddar cheese. Return to oven until cheese is melted.
you can make a lasagna, beef stew, chili, casseroles. Just make them all in advance, freeze or refriderate and leave instructions on how to reheat. =)
Beef Stew.. easy to re-heat, just nuke it. ( if you have a crock pot cook it in that to save yourself some time.
Roast a whole chicken....he can re-heat pieces,eat cold, make sandwiches...do general picking.....
Spaghetti %26amp; meatballs....cover well will keep in fridge for 3 days, easy.
Salads such as cole slaw, potato, macaroni-either your own or the deli's.....bread %26amp; cold cuts/condiments for sandwiches
Try this for something fast....
1 %26amp; 1/2 pound of ground beef
1 small bag of frozen mixed veggies
one large can 26 oz of Campbell's Tomato Soup
2 tablespoons worchestershire sauce
generous dash of garlic powder
cooked white or brown rice.
Brown %26amp; crumble meat-drain. Add cooked, drained veggies,tomato soup,garlic powder, %26amp; worchestershire sauce and simmer on low 5 minutes.....cool %26amp; cover in fridge in a bowl with a separate bowl of cooked rice....he can ladle the stuff on the rice %26amp; reheat whenever-have some shredded cheese he can top it with...tastes like homemade Hamburger Helper....made it last night and my Hubby wiped it out....no leftovers. lol
Here's something else equally simple.....
2 pound of ground beef
1 small can of tomato soup
1 small can of diced tomatoes, well drained
water according to taco seasoning packet directions
1 package of taco seasoning
finely diced white onions
finely shredded lettuce
1 cup of cooked white rice (optional)
shredded cheese
nacho chips for scooping.
Brown %26amp; drain the beef.....to it add the taco seasoning,the soup, the tomatoes,water and simmer 5 minutes...add rice if wanted. Cool %26amp; put in fridge.
To eat all he hasta do is nuke the taco beef stuff and top it with the pre-chopped onions %26amp; lettuce, %26amp; shredded cheese. eat by scooping with nacho chips...have some taco sauce on hand if he wants to dump that on top.....it's a great meal for football game watching...hubby can crap out with his bowl, chips %26amp; beer....hahahaha......
leave heating instructions on top of each item .....
make dinners you normally would then just keep them in the freezer. he surely can use a microwave right? My hubby is the same way! I usually make baked ziti, enchiladas, hamburger helper, anything that just takes a few minutes to heat up in the microCan you give me four super easy dinner ideas? that i can prepare in adavance for my husband.?
all men love hamburger helper for some strange reason. also give him tv dinners. that is very easy. you can cook a big dinner before you leave and he can have left overs. and eggs. that is easy.
lasagna
chili
beef stew
can be frozen.
I put foods together in large ziplock bags that he can just throw in the crock pot and turn on. Pot roasts and italian style chicken breasts work well. I also do things like make and freeze meatballs in advance so all he has to do is throw them in the oven to warm them up. If he can't do much, he could order one or two large pizzas and just reheat the left overs. Canned soup is easy enough too.
Beef Pot Pies For Freezing
This recipe was developed by Consumers' Union for an August 1975 Consumers' Reports report on frozen individual-serve pot pies. It was the only pie judged excellent by their taste testers. This recipe makes eight pies and can be doubled. The published recipe notes that the ingredients cost was around $0.48 per pie (in 1975 US dollars). Notes Following Recipe By: Kenneth Herron
Filling
2 Lb. stew beef
2 Tbsp. flour
1 Medium onion
1/2 Clove garlic (or 1 tsp. garlic powder)
5 Tbsp. vegetable oil
4 Cubes beef bouillon
6 Cups water
3/4 tsp. salt
1/2 tsp. Worcestershire sauce
1/4 tsp. black pepper
med potatoes
1 c carrots
1 c frozen peas
Crust
2 c flour, sifted
1 tsp. salt
2/3 c vegetable shortening (not oil)
6 tbsp. water
Filling
Cut stew beef into 1/2-inch cubes. Dice the onion and mince the garlic.
Heat oil in a pot large enough to contain all ingredients, including the water. While it heats, coat beef with flour. Brown beef a few pieces at a time, removing each piece as it browns.
Add onion and garlic to pan drippings and cook, stirring occasionally, until the onion starts to turn transparent.
Add water and bouillon, then all other ingredients except the vegetables. Cover and heat to boiling. Reduce heat to a slow simmer and allow to cook around 1 1/2 hours, stirring occasionally.
While this cooks, chop potatoes and carrots into 1/4-1/2-inch chunks. At the end of the simmering time, stir in these ingredients and simmer 20 minutes more. Add peas and simmer 7 minutes more. Check beef and vegetables for tenderness and simmer longer if necessary.
Crust
Sift flour and salt into a 4-quart bowl. Cut in the shortening with a pastry cutter or two knives until reduced to pieces about the size of peas.
Sprinkle water over the flour, one tbsp. at a time, and stir in. Stop when dough is moist but not sticky.
Gather dough into a ball and divide into 8 pieces.
Assembling the pies:
Obtain 8 aluminum foil tart pans (they specify 5 inches in diameter and 1 1/4 inches tall; this size doesn't seem to be available any more). Divide the filling evenly among the pans; each pan should end up not quite full (chunks of food can stick up a bit above the top).
For each pie, roll out a piece of dough between two sheets of wax paper until it just covers the top of the pan. Peel it out of the waxed paper, place it on top of the pan, and pinch the crust around the edges so that it adheres. Punch a few holes in the center with a fork and lightly dust with flour.
Place each pan in a freezer bag and freeze.
Cooking a pie:
Preheat oven to 450 degrees.
Place still-frozen pie(s) on a cookie sheet and bake 40-45 minutes or until crust is well browned.
Cheesy Ham and Potatoes (Dinner Is Ready page 217)
1 24-ounce bag frozen shredded hash browns
1/2 cup minced onion
2 10.75-ounce cans cream of celery soup
1 8-ounce package cream cheese
1 1/2 cups Monterey Jack cheese, shredded
1 1/2 cups cubed ham
1/4 t pepper
Soften cream cheese and cream together with soup. Stir in onions, ham, Jack cheese and pepper. Break apart hash browns. Gently stir into cheese mixture. Place in gallon freezer bag. Label and freeze.
To serve: Thaw. Place in greased baking dish. Bake covered for 1 hour at 350掳. Uncover and top with shredded Cheddar cheese. Return to oven until cheese is melted.
you can make a lasagna, beef stew, chili, casseroles. Just make them all in advance, freeze or refriderate and leave instructions on how to reheat. =)
Beef Stew.. easy to re-heat, just nuke it. ( if you have a crock pot cook it in that to save yourself some time.
Roast a whole chicken....he can re-heat pieces,eat cold, make sandwiches...do general picking.....
Spaghetti %26amp; meatballs....cover well will keep in fridge for 3 days, easy.
Salads such as cole slaw, potato, macaroni-either your own or the deli's.....bread %26amp; cold cuts/condiments for sandwiches
Try this for something fast....
1 %26amp; 1/2 pound of ground beef
1 small bag of frozen mixed veggies
one large can 26 oz of Campbell's Tomato Soup
2 tablespoons worchestershire sauce
generous dash of garlic powder
cooked white or brown rice.
Brown %26amp; crumble meat-drain. Add cooked, drained veggies,tomato soup,garlic powder, %26amp; worchestershire sauce and simmer on low 5 minutes.....cool %26amp; cover in fridge in a bowl with a separate bowl of cooked rice....he can ladle the stuff on the rice %26amp; reheat whenever-have some shredded cheese he can top it with...tastes like homemade Hamburger Helper....made it last night and my Hubby wiped it out....no leftovers. lol
Here's something else equally simple.....
2 pound of ground beef
1 small can of tomato soup
1 small can of diced tomatoes, well drained
water according to taco seasoning packet directions
1 package of taco seasoning
finely diced white onions
finely shredded lettuce
1 cup of cooked white rice (optional)
shredded cheese
nacho chips for scooping.
Brown %26amp; drain the beef.....to it add the taco seasoning,the soup, the tomatoes,water and simmer 5 minutes...add rice if wanted. Cool %26amp; put in fridge.
To eat all he hasta do is nuke the taco beef stuff and top it with the pre-chopped onions %26amp; lettuce, %26amp; shredded cheese. eat by scooping with nacho chips...have some taco sauce on hand if he wants to dump that on top.....it's a great meal for football game watching...hubby can crap out with his bowl, chips %26amp; beer....hahahaha......
leave heating instructions on top of each item .....
What should my husband and I claim on our W-4s?
We got married and bought our first home this year. We had both claimed 0 before, but now it is more important to receive more in our paychecks each pay period than worry about receiving large refunds. We both earn around $30k/year, and have no children. We would ideally like to break around even or end up owing slightly. Should we each claim 2?What should my husband and I claim on our W-4s?
Use this calculator it will tell you what you should put on your w-4 form. This is on the IRS's website.
http://www.irs.gov/individuals/article/0鈥?/a>What should my husband and I claim on our W-4s?
I've always just claimed one. I end up breaking decently even, I usually get a couple hundred back when all is said and done.
Regardless, with you both earning so much, no matter what you claim, you're going to have trouble breaking even.
You'd be wiser to each claim 1 - or maybe one of you claim 1, the other claim 2 if you don't mind owing at tax time. If your total itemized deductions including the mortgage interest and property taxes are at least around $13,000, then you'd probably get away with each claiming two.
Here's my suggestion. Claim 2. Then when you get your next paycheck, see what percentage tax that they took out. If the tax is too low, claim less exemptions. If its too high, claim more. You might be able to ask the bookkeeper how much they'll take out.
never mind, dont know w4 is, only a w2. if they are similar, there should be a worksheet which you fill out and it tells you what to claim, example, on my w2 i always claimed 2. this year, for the first time in 6 years, i filled out a new one, filled out the worksheet and waalaaa, and now claim 6. its all legal.
Use this calculator it will tell you what you should put on your w-4 form. This is on the IRS's website.
http://www.irs.gov/individuals/article/0鈥?/a>What should my husband and I claim on our W-4s?
I've always just claimed one. I end up breaking decently even, I usually get a couple hundred back when all is said and done.
Regardless, with you both earning so much, no matter what you claim, you're going to have trouble breaking even.
You'd be wiser to each claim 1 - or maybe one of you claim 1, the other claim 2 if you don't mind owing at tax time. If your total itemized deductions including the mortgage interest and property taxes are at least around $13,000, then you'd probably get away with each claiming two.
Here's my suggestion. Claim 2. Then when you get your next paycheck, see what percentage tax that they took out. If the tax is too low, claim less exemptions. If its too high, claim more. You might be able to ask the bookkeeper how much they'll take out.
never mind, dont know w4 is, only a w2. if they are similar, there should be a worksheet which you fill out and it tells you what to claim, example, on my w2 i always claimed 2. this year, for the first time in 6 years, i filled out a new one, filled out the worksheet and waalaaa, and now claim 6. its all legal.
What can I do to save my marriage when my husband is an alcoholic?
My husband is an alcoholic. We have been married for seven years. I have tried for nearly four years to get him to get help for himself and lead a more sober life. This including a year of marriage counseling. I am moving out next week. I still love him but know I can no longer live with an alcoholic. Is there anything I can do to get him to get help for himself and hopefully save our marriage???What can I do to save my marriage when my husband is an alcoholic?
if he is not causing injury to you physically when he is drunk, you need not worry about his only one vice. we are to adjust ourselves.otherwise, if it is unbearable for you when he takes a drink like his behavior of a sadist, my advise to you is to tell some person in whom your husband has faith and convince your husband for a visit to psychiatrist, who will use some behavior modification techniques like aversion therapy which will be useful.What can I do to save my marriage when my husband is an alcoholic?
Your husband is the one who has to want to save the marriage. You can't save it by yourself, and you can't save him. I think you have to cut your losses and get out.
Help yourself....go to A A...they are very helpful in guiding people like yourself......i think that is a decision your husband must make on his own, to quit.
First, I have to address a comment by libido:
';...if he is not causing injury to you physically when he is drunk, you need not worry about his only one vice.';
Physical assault doesn't have to factor into the equation. Alcohol or any substance abuse has ravaging effects on family members. Emotional turmoil and instability, financial burden (any idea how much it costs to support an addict's habit?), psychological damage (family members oftentimes think the drinking has to do with them..something they did), sexual dysfunction, lack of trust, lack of communication, lack of connection, just to name a few of the effects. The addiction IS the abuse. It's an assault on every aspect of a relationship.
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Having said that, Patty, let me just say I'm proud of you for two things: 1) loving your husband enough to want to help him, and not just abandoning him at the first sign of trouble, and 2) for removing yourself from a volatile and potentially dangerous situation. The step you're taking (moving out) doesn't have to equal divorce. The fact that you're putting your foot down (telling your husband that you're no longer going to support his addiciton) will, hopefully, shock him into reality. You're telling him that you value your own life and sanity enough to want to stay that way in order to better help him.
The best thing you can do for him is let him hit rock bottom. HE has to come to the realization that his addiction is costing him all that he holds dear. There is nothing you can do (short of intervention...and that may not even help) that will get him to change. He has to change himself...FOR himself.
The best thing you can do for yourself (and is good for him, also) is draw clear-cut boundaries. Be very specific: I will not tolerate alcohol in my presence; I will not spend time with you when you've been drinking; I will no longer support your addiction from a financial or emotional/psychological standpoint; I will not live with you unless and until you get (not seek...*get*) professional help, get sober and stay sober; etc. You make up your list as you see fit, but be very specific and be very firm. He doesn't need an enabler; he needs a tough lover.
Make it clear to him that you love him and that you want the best for him and for you both as a couple. Make it clear that you want to remain married but that it is only under condition of sobriety. And most importantly, make it clear that what happens from that point on is HIS choice. HE chooses to save the marriage or end it by choosing his addiction over you.
And pray for him.
God bless you. I know your pain.
P.S. Get yourself into an AlAnon Family group session. You may find a source of great support while you're going through this very difficult phase.
P.P.S. I heard about this guy on Oprah a while back. His name is Jeff Van Vonderven. He's an addiction specialist who may be able to help you map out a plan. I included his web link below.
You are doing the right thing by moving out to show him that you will no longer put up with that. He has to see how bad you are really hurting and it is ruining your marraige. He has to want to get the help hisself until then just let him know you still love him but you have to take a stand....good luck
u 2 start drinkin da !!! u ll enjoy happy marrige life forever
I think moving out and not having contact with him until he gets sober may save the marriage, if not it wqill save you and the kids
If you really want to try and save it maybe try and get him into and AA class. Tell him how important he is to you and how much you love him. Try and be there for him and if you have kids make sure they are there to show their support as well.
That will be more useless if you keep trying to get help for him and for your marriage while he doesn't really want to help himself. After all, your life is precious and I believe you don't want to waste it, right? Then, it's the time to say goodbye. So sorry for that.
have you tried Alcoholics Anonymous
Until your husband wants help because he believes that alcohol is ruining his life, no one and nothing will work. Take my word!!
Lifes problems are buffered by the alcohol for him, but you are taking it all on raw nerve; eventually you will look like the problem because you WILL begin to behave irrationally if you continue to try to FIX another human, especially an alcoholic. The reason being ...... they really believe there is no problem, they forget many things they do and so they deny it and there is no way to effectively discuss the issue for they are never sober enough to think right and as I said, they believe there is no problem. Get out while you still have some sanity girl!!
Take him to a 12 step program
he have to want to change befor e he will
If you do not have children with this man and do not have to worry about their safety (if you were forced to share custody of them), then run. Run as fast as you can and never look back. I don't mean that flippantly. You are doing the right thing and you will be so much better off for it. I wish I had done the same thing...instead, my life is pure, unadultered hell.
Save yourself..trying to rescue someone who is alcoholic is a dead end and hopeless endeavor. Moving is something you really need to do. You cannot get him to do anything. It is hard to walk away from someone you love...but you must have enough love for yourself to get out of a toxic situation. Best wishes to you.
You may find this an unconventional way of thinking about this but here goes;
I believe that people, especially marriage partners, end up together for a reason.
You may have been chosen to stick with this man and try and help him.
Alcoholism is a disease, if he had cancer would you be divorcing him?
I probably drink too much myself, but I only do it when I have too much stress in my life.
and I do mean stress.....
I suggest you examine your soul, as you may be the ';Angel'; that was sent to him for a reason.
Lots of luck...Shalom
No, there is nothing you can do. He has to do the whole thing himself. If he loves you and your children as well, he will literally go down to the fires of hell and out to rehabilitate himself. Alcoholism is a sad, sad, situation. I tried to help out a friend once. For many years, I seriuosly tried. Yet, I noticed that the more I tried to help him, the more pity he took on himself. Heck, I even tried to double date, and darn it, the girl that was supposed to go out with him fell in love with me! I got married and went on my way. He is in S. Carolina doing Lord knows what.
You did what you could. Don't kick yourself!
Find some disulfiram. The slightest sip of alcohol will make someone that took disulfiram violently ill that many use it as a deterent to not drink.
Yes, you know the answer. Unfortunately, people need to see rock bottom before they can help themselves up. Think of it this way...if you leave and he straightens up, then you have done seven years worth of work in a few months. If he drinks himself into more and more trouble, then he loves the bottle and feeling sorry for himself more than he loves you and your marriage.
There are many good men in the world. Don't sell your only life to this man's problems. It is not worth it.
Best of luck to you.
Sad to say no.
Not that it can not happen but if you are the only one doing the work (as this sound) this just has no happy ending.
My guess is you know this already.
Nothing more you can do. The best thing is to let him go so he doesn't make you crazy too. He has to hit bottom (whatever that may be for him). Then he will seek treatment. He has to be ready mentally to do this. I hope he does it sooner rather than later for his sake. . . .
The best way to help him, is by showing him that you will no longer tolertate his behavior, and congratualations, you are doping just that, by moving out. He needs to see that what he is doing is really hurting you. Moving out is an active way of showing him that what he is doing has a serious affect on you. It might take him a while to accept that he needs to get help for himself, and that day might not come for years...but you need to think about YOURSELF and YOUR health. His being an alchoholic is not helping you. You have done all that you can do for him, now it's time to step back, reconnect with yourslef, and your needs, and allow him to descover for himself that a change needs to happen. Hope that helps! God bless!
NO!He is not going to change.Ever!Is it fair to be the only one in a couple?
If you stay with him you will live with an alcoholic. This condition never goes away. He can be a recovering alcoholic and that is probably what you want.
The best results in alcoholic treatment have come from one organization which has been around a lot longer than most medical treatments.
Alcoholics Anonymous and its partner program for wives and husbands of alcoholics, Al-Anon, have been highly effective as both a treatment and as a support group.
Leaving him may be the ';wet slap in the face'; he needs to want to straighten himself out. Bear in mind, that this is a medical condition. It is not a character fault, not a purely behavioral problem, but a treatable disease.
He can be a good person, a good man, a good husband and a good father and still be an alcoholic.
My late father-in-law was such a man. He began his recovery in 1954 and remained married. He died in 1999 after several years of strokes, which may have been a result of his numerous injuries and drunken episodes. We will never really know.
Good luck and God bless both of you.
if he is not causing injury to you physically when he is drunk, you need not worry about his only one vice. we are to adjust ourselves.otherwise, if it is unbearable for you when he takes a drink like his behavior of a sadist, my advise to you is to tell some person in whom your husband has faith and convince your husband for a visit to psychiatrist, who will use some behavior modification techniques like aversion therapy which will be useful.What can I do to save my marriage when my husband is an alcoholic?
Your husband is the one who has to want to save the marriage. You can't save it by yourself, and you can't save him. I think you have to cut your losses and get out.
Help yourself....go to A A...they are very helpful in guiding people like yourself......i think that is a decision your husband must make on his own, to quit.
First, I have to address a comment by libido:
';...if he is not causing injury to you physically when he is drunk, you need not worry about his only one vice.';
Physical assault doesn't have to factor into the equation. Alcohol or any substance abuse has ravaging effects on family members. Emotional turmoil and instability, financial burden (any idea how much it costs to support an addict's habit?), psychological damage (family members oftentimes think the drinking has to do with them..something they did), sexual dysfunction, lack of trust, lack of communication, lack of connection, just to name a few of the effects. The addiction IS the abuse. It's an assault on every aspect of a relationship.
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Having said that, Patty, let me just say I'm proud of you for two things: 1) loving your husband enough to want to help him, and not just abandoning him at the first sign of trouble, and 2) for removing yourself from a volatile and potentially dangerous situation. The step you're taking (moving out) doesn't have to equal divorce. The fact that you're putting your foot down (telling your husband that you're no longer going to support his addiciton) will, hopefully, shock him into reality. You're telling him that you value your own life and sanity enough to want to stay that way in order to better help him.
The best thing you can do for him is let him hit rock bottom. HE has to come to the realization that his addiction is costing him all that he holds dear. There is nothing you can do (short of intervention...and that may not even help) that will get him to change. He has to change himself...FOR himself.
The best thing you can do for yourself (and is good for him, also) is draw clear-cut boundaries. Be very specific: I will not tolerate alcohol in my presence; I will not spend time with you when you've been drinking; I will no longer support your addiction from a financial or emotional/psychological standpoint; I will not live with you unless and until you get (not seek...*get*) professional help, get sober and stay sober; etc. You make up your list as you see fit, but be very specific and be very firm. He doesn't need an enabler; he needs a tough lover.
Make it clear to him that you love him and that you want the best for him and for you both as a couple. Make it clear that you want to remain married but that it is only under condition of sobriety. And most importantly, make it clear that what happens from that point on is HIS choice. HE chooses to save the marriage or end it by choosing his addiction over you.
And pray for him.
God bless you. I know your pain.
P.S. Get yourself into an AlAnon Family group session. You may find a source of great support while you're going through this very difficult phase.
P.P.S. I heard about this guy on Oprah a while back. His name is Jeff Van Vonderven. He's an addiction specialist who may be able to help you map out a plan. I included his web link below.
You are doing the right thing by moving out to show him that you will no longer put up with that. He has to see how bad you are really hurting and it is ruining your marraige. He has to want to get the help hisself until then just let him know you still love him but you have to take a stand....good luck
u 2 start drinkin da !!! u ll enjoy happy marrige life forever
I think moving out and not having contact with him until he gets sober may save the marriage, if not it wqill save you and the kids
If you really want to try and save it maybe try and get him into and AA class. Tell him how important he is to you and how much you love him. Try and be there for him and if you have kids make sure they are there to show their support as well.
That will be more useless if you keep trying to get help for him and for your marriage while he doesn't really want to help himself. After all, your life is precious and I believe you don't want to waste it, right? Then, it's the time to say goodbye. So sorry for that.
have you tried Alcoholics Anonymous
Until your husband wants help because he believes that alcohol is ruining his life, no one and nothing will work. Take my word!!
Lifes problems are buffered by the alcohol for him, but you are taking it all on raw nerve; eventually you will look like the problem because you WILL begin to behave irrationally if you continue to try to FIX another human, especially an alcoholic. The reason being ...... they really believe there is no problem, they forget many things they do and so they deny it and there is no way to effectively discuss the issue for they are never sober enough to think right and as I said, they believe there is no problem. Get out while you still have some sanity girl!!
Take him to a 12 step program
he have to want to change befor e he will
If you do not have children with this man and do not have to worry about their safety (if you were forced to share custody of them), then run. Run as fast as you can and never look back. I don't mean that flippantly. You are doing the right thing and you will be so much better off for it. I wish I had done the same thing...instead, my life is pure, unadultered hell.
Save yourself..trying to rescue someone who is alcoholic is a dead end and hopeless endeavor. Moving is something you really need to do. You cannot get him to do anything. It is hard to walk away from someone you love...but you must have enough love for yourself to get out of a toxic situation. Best wishes to you.
You may find this an unconventional way of thinking about this but here goes;
I believe that people, especially marriage partners, end up together for a reason.
You may have been chosen to stick with this man and try and help him.
Alcoholism is a disease, if he had cancer would you be divorcing him?
I probably drink too much myself, but I only do it when I have too much stress in my life.
and I do mean stress.....
I suggest you examine your soul, as you may be the ';Angel'; that was sent to him for a reason.
Lots of luck...Shalom
No, there is nothing you can do. He has to do the whole thing himself. If he loves you and your children as well, he will literally go down to the fires of hell and out to rehabilitate himself. Alcoholism is a sad, sad, situation. I tried to help out a friend once. For many years, I seriuosly tried. Yet, I noticed that the more I tried to help him, the more pity he took on himself. Heck, I even tried to double date, and darn it, the girl that was supposed to go out with him fell in love with me! I got married and went on my way. He is in S. Carolina doing Lord knows what.
You did what you could. Don't kick yourself!
Find some disulfiram. The slightest sip of alcohol will make someone that took disulfiram violently ill that many use it as a deterent to not drink.
Yes, you know the answer. Unfortunately, people need to see rock bottom before they can help themselves up. Think of it this way...if you leave and he straightens up, then you have done seven years worth of work in a few months. If he drinks himself into more and more trouble, then he loves the bottle and feeling sorry for himself more than he loves you and your marriage.
There are many good men in the world. Don't sell your only life to this man's problems. It is not worth it.
Best of luck to you.
Sad to say no.
Not that it can not happen but if you are the only one doing the work (as this sound) this just has no happy ending.
My guess is you know this already.
Nothing more you can do. The best thing is to let him go so he doesn't make you crazy too. He has to hit bottom (whatever that may be for him). Then he will seek treatment. He has to be ready mentally to do this. I hope he does it sooner rather than later for his sake. . . .
The best way to help him, is by showing him that you will no longer tolertate his behavior, and congratualations, you are doping just that, by moving out. He needs to see that what he is doing is really hurting you. Moving out is an active way of showing him that what he is doing has a serious affect on you. It might take him a while to accept that he needs to get help for himself, and that day might not come for years...but you need to think about YOURSELF and YOUR health. His being an alchoholic is not helping you. You have done all that you can do for him, now it's time to step back, reconnect with yourslef, and your needs, and allow him to descover for himself that a change needs to happen. Hope that helps! God bless!
NO!He is not going to change.Ever!Is it fair to be the only one in a couple?
If you stay with him you will live with an alcoholic. This condition never goes away. He can be a recovering alcoholic and that is probably what you want.
The best results in alcoholic treatment have come from one organization which has been around a lot longer than most medical treatments.
Alcoholics Anonymous and its partner program for wives and husbands of alcoholics, Al-Anon, have been highly effective as both a treatment and as a support group.
Leaving him may be the ';wet slap in the face'; he needs to want to straighten himself out. Bear in mind, that this is a medical condition. It is not a character fault, not a purely behavioral problem, but a treatable disease.
He can be a good person, a good man, a good husband and a good father and still be an alcoholic.
My late father-in-law was such a man. He began his recovery in 1954 and remained married. He died in 1999 after several years of strokes, which may have been a result of his numerous injuries and drunken episodes. We will never really know.
Good luck and God bless both of you.
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Can my ex husband claim our daughter as a dependent if he is not current on support?
Our divorce decree says he can claim her on the even years. Since it is time to file for 2008 it would be his year but he was 8 months behind in support on Dec 31st, 2008. Can he still claim her? He is self employed so he always owes taxes and i can't even get back support through his refunds.Can my ex husband claim our daughter as a dependent if he is not current on support?
i had similar problem witht his. Except i have allowed father to not pay child support at all. because pretty much we make 100k more a year then he does, he makes bout 12k a year. so i feel obligated to not let him pay..
Anyways what had happened is the father decided to claim without even telling me. so when i went into my tax preparer. H%26amp;r block, they said that indeed he would get the money, but after filing some form, something or the other, with proof that she lived with me 9 months plus out of the year, her school documents would show that, then i could file the paperwork and the IRS would bill him. In a sense.
I being a nice parent never went threw with it. But talk to an agent and your lawyer. if he pays support threw a state agency, not directly towrads you, then there is proof he will be behind in his child support. then you receive it anyways.Can my ex husband claim our daughter as a dependent if he is not current on support?
If your daughter live with you more than half the year and she lived with you more than she lived with your ex-husband, you entitled to claim your daughter unless(a) you sign an 8332 (or similar) form, (b) provide it to him, and (c) he attaches the 8332 form to his tax return. Your divorce decree or separation agreement does not count as a replacement to the 8332 form and so is no longer adequate to allow your ex-husband to claim your daughter every other year on his tax return. Even if you allow you ex-husband to claim your daughter as a dependent by signing the 8332 form, your ex-husband is not entitled to file as head of household or to get the earned income credit.
see http://www.irs.gov/irb/2008-33_IRB/ar06.鈥?/a>
for the recent IRS regulation that addresses this issue.
Richard K
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This advice is based upon my understanding of the law in effect at the time it was written as it applies to the facts provided by you. See my profile for more information.
why dont you call up the courts and lawyers responsible for the decision that was made in your specific case and ask them?
cause what one judge ruled for someone may not be exactly what they ruled for someone else, so therefore the only person who is going to be LEGALLY able to answer this is your lawyers
Yes he can that is your legal agreement. However if he is behind on his support you can take his tax return. Call an attorney or your courthouse where your support order is filed and they can direct you better.
He can claim her even if he hasn't paid a dime.bloom- top makeup
i had similar problem witht his. Except i have allowed father to not pay child support at all. because pretty much we make 100k more a year then he does, he makes bout 12k a year. so i feel obligated to not let him pay..
Anyways what had happened is the father decided to claim without even telling me. so when i went into my tax preparer. H%26amp;r block, they said that indeed he would get the money, but after filing some form, something or the other, with proof that she lived with me 9 months plus out of the year, her school documents would show that, then i could file the paperwork and the IRS would bill him. In a sense.
I being a nice parent never went threw with it. But talk to an agent and your lawyer. if he pays support threw a state agency, not directly towrads you, then there is proof he will be behind in his child support. then you receive it anyways.Can my ex husband claim our daughter as a dependent if he is not current on support?
If your daughter live with you more than half the year and she lived with you more than she lived with your ex-husband, you entitled to claim your daughter unless(a) you sign an 8332 (or similar) form, (b) provide it to him, and (c) he attaches the 8332 form to his tax return. Your divorce decree or separation agreement does not count as a replacement to the 8332 form and so is no longer adequate to allow your ex-husband to claim your daughter every other year on his tax return. Even if you allow you ex-husband to claim your daughter as a dependent by signing the 8332 form, your ex-husband is not entitled to file as head of household or to get the earned income credit.
see http://www.irs.gov/irb/2008-33_IRB/ar06.鈥?/a>
for the recent IRS regulation that addresses this issue.
Richard K
HR Block
This advice is based upon my understanding of the law in effect at the time it was written as it applies to the facts provided by you. See my profile for more information.
why dont you call up the courts and lawyers responsible for the decision that was made in your specific case and ask them?
cause what one judge ruled for someone may not be exactly what they ruled for someone else, so therefore the only person who is going to be LEGALLY able to answer this is your lawyers
Yes he can that is your legal agreement. However if he is behind on his support you can take his tax return. Call an attorney or your courthouse where your support order is filed and they can direct you better.
He can claim her even if he hasn't paid a dime.
What would my husband think if I had the baby during the commercials of my fav soap?
He would think sweet that was fast!What would my husband think if I had the baby during the commercials of my fav soap?
That you were too busy watching the soap instead of pushing lol.
I plan to have the t.v. on when I give birth..but it'll be sad because I'll have the stupid hospital t.v. not my 52 inch :(
Maybe I should check hospital policy on bringing your own t.v. in and throw a 52 inch on my birth plan :)What would my husband think if I had the baby during the commercials of my fav soap?
Lol my mom told me i cant give birth during surviver, and or i would be holding him in till it was over, i was like.. wtf?
Weird..
huh
That you were too busy watching the soap instead of pushing lol.
I plan to have the t.v. on when I give birth..but it'll be sad because I'll have the stupid hospital t.v. not my 52 inch :(
Maybe I should check hospital policy on bringing your own t.v. in and throw a 52 inch on my birth plan :)What would my husband think if I had the baby during the commercials of my fav soap?
Lol my mom told me i cant give birth during surviver, and or i would be holding him in till it was over, i was like.. wtf?
Weird..
huh
Is there scripture about a woman staying with her alcoholic husband?
Something about the woman who stays with her drunken husband is blessed. Does anyone know where this is in the Bible? Thanks!Is there scripture about a woman staying with her alcoholic husband?
AbigailIs there scripture about a woman staying with her alcoholic husband?
There is nothing in the Bible about staying with a drunken husband.
As a step child of a drunk I don't think any woman should subject herself or her children to a alcoholic husband.
AbigailIs there scripture about a woman staying with her alcoholic husband?
There is nothing in the Bible about staying with a drunken husband.
As a step child of a drunk I don't think any woman should subject herself or her children to a alcoholic husband.
Help convincing my husband to go to a urologist?
My gynecologist had my husband do a sperm count at the hospital. And sadly it came back that he has zero sperm. This happened over a year ago now. Ever since then I tell him to call the number he gave us, but for some reason, he wont or keeps putting it off. I told my doctor about it and he said I really need to convince him to go because he might have a hurnea he doesnt even about. Or something worse. What can I do to get him to call.Help convincing my husband to go to a urologist?
My husband is hesitant to even go in for a sperm analysis now that we've been TTC for a year.
My guess is that your husband is embarrassed about the fact that he doesn't have any sperm. He probably feels like it means he's less of a man. Going to a urologist and having it confirmed probably makes him feel like a failure. But for his own health, he does need to go in. Unfortunately, short of making the appointment for him and tying him up and dragging him in, you really can't make him go if he doesn't want to. But if you are TTC, you should explain to him how important this is as you want *his* child, not a sperm donor's child. The only for that to happen is for him to find out what's going on. But try to be supportive and not get upset with him. He may feel like you are going to blame him for not being able to get you pregnant. You need to make sure he understands that you love him no matter what.Help convincing my husband to go to a urologist?
Some guys equate the whole sperm count issue as a manly issue and not a physical problem. Sit him down and tell him what the doctors concerns are and how serious it is.
He's just having security issues. Tell him that you are really concerned there could be a health problem. I hope you can get through to him.
just tell him how you fell
My husband is hesitant to even go in for a sperm analysis now that we've been TTC for a year.
My guess is that your husband is embarrassed about the fact that he doesn't have any sperm. He probably feels like it means he's less of a man. Going to a urologist and having it confirmed probably makes him feel like a failure. But for his own health, he does need to go in. Unfortunately, short of making the appointment for him and tying him up and dragging him in, you really can't make him go if he doesn't want to. But if you are TTC, you should explain to him how important this is as you want *his* child, not a sperm donor's child. The only for that to happen is for him to find out what's going on. But try to be supportive and not get upset with him. He may feel like you are going to blame him for not being able to get you pregnant. You need to make sure he understands that you love him no matter what.Help convincing my husband to go to a urologist?
Some guys equate the whole sperm count issue as a manly issue and not a physical problem. Sit him down and tell him what the doctors concerns are and how serious it is.
He's just having security issues. Tell him that you are really concerned there could be a health problem. I hope you can get through to him.
just tell him how you fell
Can a late husband's ex wife take money from the life insurance policy he left his current wife?
This late husband had two children from a previous marriage. He was killed and left his current wife and his mother as the beneficiaries. Now the ex wife is trying to get some of the money. Is she entitled to any?Can a late husband's ex wife take money from the life insurance policy he left his current wife?
The beneficiary listed on the policy at the time of his death is who will get 100% of the money. A valid and current life insurance policy is not an attachable asset that can be included in the estate of the deceased- or, simply put, a life insurance policy that can be paid to the beneficiary listed on the policy can not be paid to someone else.
Now, other assets such as a retirement portfolio or monies existing unattached outside of his current marriage, that's another matter. As part of the probate process, there may be something that can be done there.Can a late husband's ex wife take money from the life insurance policy he left his current wife?
I would check with a lawyer who can read over the policy thoroughly and advise you.
If the beneficiaries are his current wife and his mother though, then all the money goes to them. Since his ex-wife is not listed, she would get nothing. However, if children are involved it may complicate things depending on their age and the laws in place.
Probably not. However, that also depends on the ages of the children and what he has or has not left them for their continued upbringing. She would need to hire an attorney and take this up in probate court. I don't think that probate is going to get involved with private insurance issues though. Your best bet is to consult an attorney - just to be safe!
check with an attorney, i believe the children are entitled to a percentage of it... as his wife should set up a trust fund for his kids if you have extra money. The ex will be getting SS for the kids so i would say she is getting just a bit greedy.
I would assume that in certain conditions the exwife's children are entitled to some money. It probably depends on who took out the policy and paid for it and whether or not he is behind in child support payments. A lawyer is necessary here.
NO. There's a reason she was not named as a beneficiary, or her kids.
But, personally, I think, if the kids are still young, they ought to get some of it. Even if it is in a Trust account, for educational use only. But that's just me.
';Gold-diggers'; deserve nothing!
Unless it is in the will or she is a beneficiary she is not entitled to any of his life insurance.
The dude didn't leave money to his kids? That's harsh.
Anyway, this is a question for a lawyer, not for random people in YA.
It depends how old the children are. Another factor could be the length of their marriage.
Check with a lawyer. Because sometimes they are entitled because of the children.
If she's not listed as a beneficiary, she's shlt outta luck.
The beneficiary listed on the policy at the time of his death is who will get 100% of the money. A valid and current life insurance policy is not an attachable asset that can be included in the estate of the deceased- or, simply put, a life insurance policy that can be paid to the beneficiary listed on the policy can not be paid to someone else.
Now, other assets such as a retirement portfolio or monies existing unattached outside of his current marriage, that's another matter. As part of the probate process, there may be something that can be done there.Can a late husband's ex wife take money from the life insurance policy he left his current wife?
I would check with a lawyer who can read over the policy thoroughly and advise you.
If the beneficiaries are his current wife and his mother though, then all the money goes to them. Since his ex-wife is not listed, she would get nothing. However, if children are involved it may complicate things depending on their age and the laws in place.
Probably not. However, that also depends on the ages of the children and what he has or has not left them for their continued upbringing. She would need to hire an attorney and take this up in probate court. I don't think that probate is going to get involved with private insurance issues though. Your best bet is to consult an attorney - just to be safe!
check with an attorney, i believe the children are entitled to a percentage of it... as his wife should set up a trust fund for his kids if you have extra money. The ex will be getting SS for the kids so i would say she is getting just a bit greedy.
I would assume that in certain conditions the exwife's children are entitled to some money. It probably depends on who took out the policy and paid for it and whether or not he is behind in child support payments. A lawyer is necessary here.
NO. There's a reason she was not named as a beneficiary, or her kids.
But, personally, I think, if the kids are still young, they ought to get some of it. Even if it is in a Trust account, for educational use only. But that's just me.
';Gold-diggers'; deserve nothing!
Unless it is in the will or she is a beneficiary she is not entitled to any of his life insurance.
The dude didn't leave money to his kids? That's harsh.
Anyway, this is a question for a lawyer, not for random people in YA.
It depends how old the children are. Another factor could be the length of their marriage.
Check with a lawyer. Because sometimes they are entitled because of the children.
If she's not listed as a beneficiary, she's shlt outta luck.
Why does my husband get sick after he eats?
About 6 months, only some days, after my husband eats he gets sick. He experiences a headache, funny feeling on his face, like numb, and a weird taste in his mouth. It only happens sometimes, but has been going on for a while. Sometimes he feels dizzy, and short of breath. He is overweight.
Has anyone experienced all this after over-eating or after eating?Why does my husband get sick after he eats?
You may want to consider that he may be allergic to something he's eating.
I used to actually experience those say feelings (minus the headache) when I ate celery; at the time, i did not know it was the celery as it's usually found in soups, casseroles, sheppard's pie.. you get the picture.
You might want to further research Oral Allergy Syndrome - that's what I have. It's not a fatal allergy, but more of a sensivity that can become rather bothersome.
Good luck :)Why does my husband get sick after he eats?
See, my husband doesn鈥檛 understand moderation. I鈥檒l often come home from work and go to the cabinet to have a couple of chips only to find that he鈥檚 eaten the whole bag during the day. I never have any idea what may be left for me in the refrigerator but the answer is usually鈥othing. He just doesn鈥檛 know when to stop. When he eats ice cream, I鈥檝e discovered that I literally have to take the carton and spoon out of his hands or else he鈥檒l finish it and then moan about having a stomachache. The other night, he ate a gigantic piece of cheesecake and then followed that up with half a bag of chips and couldn鈥檛 understand why he felt like he was going to throw up. The really annoying part about this is that my husband is super-thin. I mean the kind of thin where he could probably stand to eat a few cartons of ice cream a day to gain some weight. Meanwhile, if I have even a few spoonfuls of ice cream I see it in my thighs the next day. Where鈥檚 the justice?
I suggest that he have his blood sugar tested.
Has anyone experienced all this after over-eating or after eating?Why does my husband get sick after he eats?
You may want to consider that he may be allergic to something he's eating.
I used to actually experience those say feelings (minus the headache) when I ate celery; at the time, i did not know it was the celery as it's usually found in soups, casseroles, sheppard's pie.. you get the picture.
You might want to further research Oral Allergy Syndrome - that's what I have. It's not a fatal allergy, but more of a sensivity that can become rather bothersome.
Good luck :)Why does my husband get sick after he eats?
See, my husband doesn鈥檛 understand moderation. I鈥檒l often come home from work and go to the cabinet to have a couple of chips only to find that he鈥檚 eaten the whole bag during the day. I never have any idea what may be left for me in the refrigerator but the answer is usually鈥othing. He just doesn鈥檛 know when to stop. When he eats ice cream, I鈥檝e discovered that I literally have to take the carton and spoon out of his hands or else he鈥檒l finish it and then moan about having a stomachache. The other night, he ate a gigantic piece of cheesecake and then followed that up with half a bag of chips and couldn鈥檛 understand why he felt like he was going to throw up. The really annoying part about this is that my husband is super-thin. I mean the kind of thin where he could probably stand to eat a few cartons of ice cream a day to gain some weight. Meanwhile, if I have even a few spoonfuls of ice cream I see it in my thighs the next day. Where鈥檚 the justice?
I suggest that he have his blood sugar tested.
Why would my husband be ordered to appear in Supreme Court for child support?
He just only recently found out he had a child and he lives out of state. They had a child support hearing without him and now he got notified he is Ordered to appear in Supreme CourtWhy would my husband be ordered to appear in Supreme Court for child support?
What Supreme Court handles Child support? Sounds like he is LYING. Supreme Courts mostly handle issues involving if something is Constitutional or not. They aren't going to handle an issue this small. It would start in a family court and if he refused to go they would simply order him to pay in a default judgment. So why don't you tell us the REAL story when you find out what it is.Why would my husband be ordered to appear in Supreme Court for child support?
I don;t understand your question - it suggests the answer in it. Your husband has a child w/another woman in another state and that state has ordered him to appear to answer for child support.
Isn;t that self-explanatory?
I wonder if your husband has told you everything. Men are DOGS.
More details are needed.bloom- top makeup
What Supreme Court handles Child support? Sounds like he is LYING. Supreme Courts mostly handle issues involving if something is Constitutional or not. They aren't going to handle an issue this small. It would start in a family court and if he refused to go they would simply order him to pay in a default judgment. So why don't you tell us the REAL story when you find out what it is.Why would my husband be ordered to appear in Supreme Court for child support?
I don;t understand your question - it suggests the answer in it. Your husband has a child w/another woman in another state and that state has ordered him to appear to answer for child support.
Isn;t that self-explanatory?
I wonder if your husband has told you everything. Men are DOGS.
More details are needed.
My friend's husband wants me to create and maintain a web site for his company. How much should I charge?
I have the knowledge and the time. But I have never thought to do this before? Any idea on what I should charge?My friend's husband wants me to create and maintain a web site for his company. How much should I charge?
I would say 30/perhour bc it costs alone 12$ a year just to host the website that doesn't include domain name and other featuresMy friend's husband wants me to create and maintain a web site for his company. How much should I charge?
Charge him what your time is worth. A web designer now makes between $25 - $100 / hour for base work, so figure out how much time it will take, what your time is worth, and then go from there.
BTW, if this is legit he'll give you a 1099 form for it, you'll have to pay social security taxes et al, so bump it up to account for the tax situation.
first what will his website do, will you sell products? Lot's of maintenance here or is a corporate website where only content will be updated? What platform will you use for the website.
If you can, get paid by the hour not by an amount for the whole job. From personal experience, these things tend to drag on and become bigger than origianlly intended.
I would say 30/perhour bc it costs alone 12$ a year just to host the website that doesn't include domain name and other featuresMy friend's husband wants me to create and maintain a web site for his company. How much should I charge?
Charge him what your time is worth. A web designer now makes between $25 - $100 / hour for base work, so figure out how much time it will take, what your time is worth, and then go from there.
BTW, if this is legit he'll give you a 1099 form for it, you'll have to pay social security taxes et al, so bump it up to account for the tax situation.
first what will his website do, will you sell products? Lot's of maintenance here or is a corporate website where only content will be updated? What platform will you use for the website.
If you can, get paid by the hour not by an amount for the whole job. From personal experience, these things tend to drag on and become bigger than origianlly intended.
When Football Season Rolls Around, How Can I get My husband to watch it with me?
OMG! I really love football. I love playing it in real life too. I have a really mean punt but I have to be barefooted to kick the ball far. Anywayz, my husband has never really taken an interest in football. And I would really like to get him into watching it with me. How do I go about doing that? Thanks for replies!When Football Season Rolls Around, How Can I get My husband to watch it with me?
Wow that's amazing. Anytime their is a woman who loves football it's beautiful thing. I taught my sister how to throw a football and now she can throw a 20 yard spiral in a skirt.
Try to find something he likes and see if you can link it to football. If it's beer, food, behind the scenes with the technical crew hell even the cheerleaders(not so much them) just try to tie it in together. Try to start him off in college football. Pick a school from his hometown and watch the games or even go to one. With all of the pageantry of college football it's hard for anyone not to like it. Gamble or make bets with each other for random things. So if his hometown team wins you will do the yard work or make his favorite dish or whatever you want to wager (and vice or versa) to make it exciting for him to pay attention to it. Also try to watch something he likes so that way you show interest to things he may like. Cook some good foods and make some drinks to make it a big event that way he will look forward to watching football with you.
Best of luck. What a shame that you have to ask this question.When Football Season Rolls Around, How Can I get My husband to watch it with me?
What does he watch, old reruns of the original Doctor Who? Any male who calls himself a MAN and doesn't watch football is only fooling the person in the mirror. I run across these so-called 'MEN' who don't watch sports unless its male figure skating or some other abomination that has the absolute audacity to call itself a sport. Shame on these males and let them be banished to the furthest ends of the earth where the only channels are The Lifetime Network, Oxygen, and ESPN until they find some type of testicular fortitude.
Have a little pre-game ';game'; in the yard and let him tackle you.
Make some great game-food. Nachos. Chili. Pizza. Bee-ah.
During the game explain some of the plays to him, why your team chose the play, or why a certain situation calls for a certain play.
After the game, show him you appreciate the effort, by doing something he likes to do.
Good luck. Can't believe you have to ask a grown man to watch football with you.
Wow, that is all I can say wow....if I could get my GF to liking football that would be so kick, but I've never heard of a woman trying to get a ';man'; into watching football. Girl, I would watch football with you so fast, because that's my passion along with music, how can you not watch football lol. DO this though, sit down and talk to him, ask him please watch just ONE game with me, ask him. Sit down in the chair and turn the game on and get into it, when he sees you really have passion for the American Game we all so love so much, maybe he'll see this as a time to spend more time with you if you don't spend that much time with each other, make it a habit of you and your husband to sit down with each other and watch one game a week, if that's all he wants, you got a game with him, if not, just keep trying, but do not sell yourself short. You know his interests, maybe you need to do something with him as well, if he sees you are doing something that he enjoys doing, maybe he will join a game of football with you as well. Hope I helped and good luck with teaching your man how to watch football hehe.
take part in something that he likes and ask him to return the favor. i didnt like football but my girl is a huge college fan and i had no choice. makes sure he watches the first few games of the season. it's like watching the beginning of a movie, you have no choice but to finish and wonder what happens to the hero. if he has a problem with the dumb jock mentality, there's nothing you can do, just drop it.
try to get him to pay attention and he might like it, if not it is his loss, you can't force somebody to like something, even if football is the greatest game on earth he might just be different, unique.
the only thing i can think of is maybe hes more into college football. Ive got a friend that doesnt really prefer the NFL but loves college football.
P.S. - Make him choose a team to root for 1st before you watch a game
tell him if he watches football with u u will make time for stuff he enjoys like going to the mall or u guys could go get your hair done some afternoon. tell him how passionate u are about football and im sure he would love to watch it with you
wow you sound like a great woman. and your husband sounds like a wimp. kick his butt until he watches with you. Pro Football is the best sport in the world!
***** slap him, dump ice water on his head, and tell him to wake up and grow a pair. repeat steps 1, 2, and 3 as many times as necessary.
a man who doesn't like football? Thats just un-american.Crazy.Good luck though.
haha see answers by tim, ihateschool and cmow5!
haha those guys are hilarious. also i strongly agree with them.
Get a divorce and find a real man!!!
wear a sexy cheer leader outfit tell him tro beat somethin FUN u know play strip football if one team score his come off if the other ur come off!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11
Marry me!
handcuff that bizatch to the fuc ken couch and punch him in the balls till he starts watching it
Get him to a doctor fast!
His testicles haven't dropped yet!
Make bets for sexual favors...that's what me and my husband do.
well. tell him. real men like football?
--p.s. go cowboys!!!
Dump him, and get with me
Give him an ultimatum...watch football or your gettin a new man...
WHAT!!!.. is he a commie for not liking football.. what kind of a man is he...lol
you cach hold your partner with your talent, offer to him verity
food and other........ok?
he doesn't like football? are you sure you married a man?
Wow...a man that dosen't like football....whimp....watch it ur damn self and let him go play tennis or somin....
Why would try to force something so horrible onto anyone, especially someone you love?
Wow that's amazing. Anytime their is a woman who loves football it's beautiful thing. I taught my sister how to throw a football and now she can throw a 20 yard spiral in a skirt.
Try to find something he likes and see if you can link it to football. If it's beer, food, behind the scenes with the technical crew hell even the cheerleaders(not so much them) just try to tie it in together. Try to start him off in college football. Pick a school from his hometown and watch the games or even go to one. With all of the pageantry of college football it's hard for anyone not to like it. Gamble or make bets with each other for random things. So if his hometown team wins you will do the yard work or make his favorite dish or whatever you want to wager (and vice or versa) to make it exciting for him to pay attention to it. Also try to watch something he likes so that way you show interest to things he may like. Cook some good foods and make some drinks to make it a big event that way he will look forward to watching football with you.
Best of luck. What a shame that you have to ask this question.When Football Season Rolls Around, How Can I get My husband to watch it with me?
What does he watch, old reruns of the original Doctor Who? Any male who calls himself a MAN and doesn't watch football is only fooling the person in the mirror. I run across these so-called 'MEN' who don't watch sports unless its male figure skating or some other abomination that has the absolute audacity to call itself a sport. Shame on these males and let them be banished to the furthest ends of the earth where the only channels are The Lifetime Network, Oxygen, and ESPN until they find some type of testicular fortitude.
Have a little pre-game ';game'; in the yard and let him tackle you.
Make some great game-food. Nachos. Chili. Pizza. Bee-ah.
During the game explain some of the plays to him, why your team chose the play, or why a certain situation calls for a certain play.
After the game, show him you appreciate the effort, by doing something he likes to do.
Good luck. Can't believe you have to ask a grown man to watch football with you.
Wow, that is all I can say wow....if I could get my GF to liking football that would be so kick, but I've never heard of a woman trying to get a ';man'; into watching football. Girl, I would watch football with you so fast, because that's my passion along with music, how can you not watch football lol. DO this though, sit down and talk to him, ask him please watch just ONE game with me, ask him. Sit down in the chair and turn the game on and get into it, when he sees you really have passion for the American Game we all so love so much, maybe he'll see this as a time to spend more time with you if you don't spend that much time with each other, make it a habit of you and your husband to sit down with each other and watch one game a week, if that's all he wants, you got a game with him, if not, just keep trying, but do not sell yourself short. You know his interests, maybe you need to do something with him as well, if he sees you are doing something that he enjoys doing, maybe he will join a game of football with you as well. Hope I helped and good luck with teaching your man how to watch football hehe.
take part in something that he likes and ask him to return the favor. i didnt like football but my girl is a huge college fan and i had no choice. makes sure he watches the first few games of the season. it's like watching the beginning of a movie, you have no choice but to finish and wonder what happens to the hero. if he has a problem with the dumb jock mentality, there's nothing you can do, just drop it.
try to get him to pay attention and he might like it, if not it is his loss, you can't force somebody to like something, even if football is the greatest game on earth he might just be different, unique.
the only thing i can think of is maybe hes more into college football. Ive got a friend that doesnt really prefer the NFL but loves college football.
P.S. - Make him choose a team to root for 1st before you watch a game
tell him if he watches football with u u will make time for stuff he enjoys like going to the mall or u guys could go get your hair done some afternoon. tell him how passionate u are about football and im sure he would love to watch it with you
wow you sound like a great woman. and your husband sounds like a wimp. kick his butt until he watches with you. Pro Football is the best sport in the world!
***** slap him, dump ice water on his head, and tell him to wake up and grow a pair. repeat steps 1, 2, and 3 as many times as necessary.
a man who doesn't like football? Thats just un-american.Crazy.Good luck though.
haha see answers by tim, ihateschool and cmow5!
haha those guys are hilarious. also i strongly agree with them.
Get a divorce and find a real man!!!
wear a sexy cheer leader outfit tell him tro beat somethin FUN u know play strip football if one team score his come off if the other ur come off!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11
Marry me!
handcuff that bizatch to the fuc ken couch and punch him in the balls till he starts watching it
Get him to a doctor fast!
His testicles haven't dropped yet!
Make bets for sexual favors...that's what me and my husband do.
well. tell him. real men like football?
--p.s. go cowboys!!!
Dump him, and get with me
Give him an ultimatum...watch football or your gettin a new man...
WHAT!!!.. is he a commie for not liking football.. what kind of a man is he...lol
you cach hold your partner with your talent, offer to him verity
food and other........ok?
he doesn't like football? are you sure you married a man?
Wow...a man that dosen't like football....whimp....watch it ur damn self and let him go play tennis or somin....
Why would try to force something so horrible onto anyone, especially someone you love?
How would my husband buy a house that already owns half of?
My husband's mother passed away a year and half ago. His brother is the executor of the estate. There is a house that they are trying to sell. My husband and I would really like to purchase the house but are not sure how to go about doing it. He technically owns half of the house and his brother the other half. His brother wants to get his half of the house so we know we would have to go through a loan to get it but we're not sure of the best way to do this. The house is valued at 100,000 so our share would approx 50,000. Our credit is pretty bad too. Does anyone have any suggestions or advice or information on the best way to do this?
Thanks!How would my husband buy a house that already owns half of?
It is like buying and selling actions of a companie: your husband has 50% of the actions and his brother the other 50%. The bank credit and everything will be about buying a half.
Your only problem is your credit. I don't now if having half of the house (that means you already have half of the money of the house full price) will be enough to get a bank credit but I'm sure it will help.How would my husband buy a house that already owns half of?
You are buying his brother's share out. You apply for a loan and tell the loan officer that. Is there a mortgage on the house, if so that will have to be paid off and you two will get a new mortgage.
If they're both already on title, you can treat it as a refinance and ';Quit Claim'; the brother/executor off. Depending on how bad your ';bad credit'; is you might have to go to a sub-prime lender.
Does his brother want to sell his share? Then it should be no problem. When working with the bank, you should not have a serious problem even with bad credit. Since you are only borrowing half the value of the home the loan is essentially secured by the equity (the $50,000 that he inherited) in the house. This means that even if you never made one payment they could sell the house for enough to cover the principle plus the interest.
You have to do a not-arms length purchase, with bad credit it is possible because you can get a gift of equity from immediate family. This will mean you buy the house for 100,000 and only take a loan out for say 60,000 that will cover closing costs, fees and your husbands brother's 50,000. Find a subprime lender in your area and tell him you want to buy a house using gift of equity.
Thanks!How would my husband buy a house that already owns half of?
It is like buying and selling actions of a companie: your husband has 50% of the actions and his brother the other 50%. The bank credit and everything will be about buying a half.
Your only problem is your credit. I don't now if having half of the house (that means you already have half of the money of the house full price) will be enough to get a bank credit but I'm sure it will help.How would my husband buy a house that already owns half of?
You are buying his brother's share out. You apply for a loan and tell the loan officer that. Is there a mortgage on the house, if so that will have to be paid off and you two will get a new mortgage.
If they're both already on title, you can treat it as a refinance and ';Quit Claim'; the brother/executor off. Depending on how bad your ';bad credit'; is you might have to go to a sub-prime lender.
Does his brother want to sell his share? Then it should be no problem. When working with the bank, you should not have a serious problem even with bad credit. Since you are only borrowing half the value of the home the loan is essentially secured by the equity (the $50,000 that he inherited) in the house. This means that even if you never made one payment they could sell the house for enough to cover the principle plus the interest.
You have to do a not-arms length purchase, with bad credit it is possible because you can get a gift of equity from immediate family. This will mean you buy the house for 100,000 and only take a loan out for say 60,000 that will cover closing costs, fees and your husbands brother's 50,000. Find a subprime lender in your area and tell him you want to buy a house using gift of equity.
How can my husband train to be a plumber?
He has tried to get onto a part time course to do NVQ in plumbing but didn't get on. He really wants to do this but can't do an apprenticeship because he's too old (- over 24!).How can my husband train to be a plumber?
there are loads of course on the net, one week redidential courses and the like.How can my husband train to be a plumber?
Have you tried calling the major companies to see if they have apprenticeships? They usually pay for the course if they know you are doing well and are serious. Put your name on the waiting lists as well, you can always turn it down if things work out.
Don't worry, my brother-in-law just did the course and is now with a large plumbing company... and he's 32! I'm 32 with kids and am at uni studying a course I've always dreamed of working in.... Never give up.
Good luck.
ask him to mend your pipe for practise
24 is not old to be an apprentice, i know several older apprentices in their 40's (but they are training to be journeyman electricians). the only thing that will keep you from being a good apprentice is the ability to learn. union apprenticeship is perhaps the best training available if you want to be a plumber.
I am trying to do the same. I tried to get on a course but got told there was a 3 year waiting list. There are various private courses on the internet but they seem to range from 拢2,500 to 拢3,500. I think the best way is to phone round local plumbers and see if they need any help with general labouring, at least this way he will be learing the trade and getting paid even if its not much.
The best way would probably be to get on an apprenticeship, and apart from doing the course at college it is the only other way I can think of. I wasn't aware that there is an age restriction on apprenticeships, my dad has apprenticies that are in their 30's. See if there is a training college, where I live we have Training 2000 where you go to learn theory a couple of days and then you go and apprentice for a few days.
Seriously, DON'T DO IT! The pay is nothing like what the press says!
there are loads of course on the net, one week redidential courses and the like.How can my husband train to be a plumber?
Have you tried calling the major companies to see if they have apprenticeships? They usually pay for the course if they know you are doing well and are serious. Put your name on the waiting lists as well, you can always turn it down if things work out.
Don't worry, my brother-in-law just did the course and is now with a large plumbing company... and he's 32! I'm 32 with kids and am at uni studying a course I've always dreamed of working in.... Never give up.
Good luck.
ask him to mend your pipe for practise
24 is not old to be an apprentice, i know several older apprentices in their 40's (but they are training to be journeyman electricians). the only thing that will keep you from being a good apprentice is the ability to learn. union apprenticeship is perhaps the best training available if you want to be a plumber.
I am trying to do the same. I tried to get on a course but got told there was a 3 year waiting list. There are various private courses on the internet but they seem to range from 拢2,500 to 拢3,500. I think the best way is to phone round local plumbers and see if they need any help with general labouring, at least this way he will be learing the trade and getting paid even if its not much.
The best way would probably be to get on an apprenticeship, and apart from doing the course at college it is the only other way I can think of. I wasn't aware that there is an age restriction on apprenticeships, my dad has apprenticies that are in their 30's. See if there is a training college, where I live we have Training 2000 where you go to learn theory a couple of days and then you go and apprentice for a few days.
Seriously, DON'T DO IT! The pay is nothing like what the press says!
My husband is in the Army active and is thinking of going reserve should my husband re enlist as reserve?
Are there any bonuses to going reserve after being on Active Duty? He has been in the Army a little over a year and does not have enough time left in hes contract to make Sgt. He doesn't really want to re enlist active. Is it a good idea to go reserve?My husband is in the Army active and is thinking of going reserve should my husband re enlist as reserve?
He will be in for 4 years before he can go reserve. But yes reserve is a good idea.My husband is in the Army active and is thinking of going reserve should my husband re enlist as reserve?
If he wants to stay in the military, the Army Reserve or National Guard would be the best way to go.
There are certain bonuses for going into the ARNG. He should talk to his RCC office about what benefits he would be eligible for based off time in service, MOS, etc.
ARNG Bonuses are only good right now until 28 Feb 09, and they may change after that or may be continued. It all depends on funding right now. The Bonuses are based off the date the contract is signed though, not when it is effective.
I highly suggest he go into the Reserve Component though as he has a lot of IRR time to kill if he has only been in a little over a year.
I got out after 3 years of service and missed it so I went back Reserves. My primary MOS was 11b (Infantry). Since there are no Infantry reserve units. I did not get a bonus. I went into a unit of ammution specialist....WOW. If I had know before hand the un-miliraty of this unit, I would not have joined. I serve for love of country, most of them are there for school. I was disappointed in the way it was ran. A year ago I was running in the streets of Iraq. Shooting, moving, and communicating. Now I was sitting in a class for the M249. A class I ended up giving, because the person giving it hadn't even fired it. I was the only person (besides a ranger who was stuck like me) who knew anything about a .50 cal.
All and all, I would have stayed active if I had the choice.
He will be in for 4 years before he can go reserve. But yes reserve is a good idea.My husband is in the Army active and is thinking of going reserve should my husband re enlist as reserve?
If he wants to stay in the military, the Army Reserve or National Guard would be the best way to go.
There are certain bonuses for going into the ARNG. He should talk to his RCC office about what benefits he would be eligible for based off time in service, MOS, etc.
ARNG Bonuses are only good right now until 28 Feb 09, and they may change after that or may be continued. It all depends on funding right now. The Bonuses are based off the date the contract is signed though, not when it is effective.
I highly suggest he go into the Reserve Component though as he has a lot of IRR time to kill if he has only been in a little over a year.
I got out after 3 years of service and missed it so I went back Reserves. My primary MOS was 11b (Infantry). Since there are no Infantry reserve units. I did not get a bonus. I went into a unit of ammution specialist....WOW. If I had know before hand the un-miliraty of this unit, I would not have joined. I serve for love of country, most of them are there for school. I was disappointed in the way it was ran. A year ago I was running in the streets of Iraq. Shooting, moving, and communicating. Now I was sitting in a class for the M249. A class I ended up giving, because the person giving it hadn't even fired it. I was the only person (besides a ranger who was stuck like me) who knew anything about a .50 cal.
All and all, I would have stayed active if I had the choice.
Me and my husband was wanting to adopt a child but ....How do I start? I wish God will just give me a baby.?
I think you need to sit down and look at what you really want for your life together. I wrestled with infertility for 15 years before I finally accepted that maybe I was NOT meant to have children. At that point, I was able to move forward with long term life plans instead of obsessing over trying to fit into society's norms about what we're ';supposed'; to have in our lives.
Good luck, whatever life you live.Me and my husband was wanting to adopt a child but ....How do I start? I wish God will just give me a baby.?
There are lots of ways to apply, but getting an infant is sometimes difficult in the US. That is why so many have left the country to get a baby.
The costs are extreme to adopt from another country.
I can only imagine what you feel ..
I dont know your situation, but have you tried all the avenue's for one of your own?
I will put you on our prayer list for an answer to your situation.
Dont give up .. !Me and my husband was wanting to adopt a child but ....How do I start? I wish God will just give me a baby.?
hi , you dont say why you need to adopt i presume there must be a reason ,? ( you dont have to say ) its just me and my wife tried to have a child together when we first got together and we lost five through egg topics and misscarrages , then when she had the last eggtopic pregnancy they removed her right tube and told us that ivf was the only way as the left one was totally shot to pieces , BUT THEN SHE FELL PREGNANT A MONTH LATER AND NOW OUR SON IS NEARLY NINE SO THER IS HOPE FOR EVERY ONE
god bless you all
tj and tracy uk
precious.org is where I started. We now have a beautiful little boy who is having his 4th birthday this weekend.....his FIRST ONE with us as his forever family.
God Bless
visit your state agency and like catholic social services dont wit till your too old hunny if your more middle age n younger you have proof that you r having trouble getting pg then you will be able to get and infant even now older kids n toddlers are plenty good luck hunny dont wait ~~~~~~
First you need to decide if you want an infant or if you want an older child, then try to decide if you can handle one that has special needs or not. Next pick a country or stay in the USA. Check out www.adoption.com as they have lots of links to various programs and information. If you are chosing a foreign adoption, then start at the government web sites to read about each country, time frames, number of visits required, etc. Its a lot to research so keep notes on everything until you finally come to a decision. Adoption. com also has a list of adoption professionals by state. Adoptive Families Magazine also has a list of agency's and what they are licensed for in each state. Good luck.
Adopting is great...my family does foster care and I already know I will adopt children in addition to having some of my own ( I want a big family).
There are lots of private adoption agencies - those are the places that people say they have difficulty from. How old are you looking for? There are lots of older children - contact the Department of Social Children, as well as infants. Get your name on every list you can. ';Normal'; infants are hard to find in DSS - 2 of my adopted little sisters were drug babies - one is becoming a normal 5 year old and the other is just turning one, and has HIV.
Consider posting on websites like craigslist and the newspaper. ASK around - visit a 'planned parenthood'-type place and see if they know of any girls looking into adoption. Expect for the process to take 1 - 2 years, or more depending on your situation. -- Try new things that other people have not - advertise on your clothing - a friend of the family got a shirt made that said -
are you PREGNANT thinking about ADOPTION? We are looking to ADOPT. Call XXX-XXX-XXXX we will respect your PRIVACY
Good Luck!bloom- lip gloss
Good luck, whatever life you live.Me and my husband was wanting to adopt a child but ....How do I start? I wish God will just give me a baby.?
There are lots of ways to apply, but getting an infant is sometimes difficult in the US. That is why so many have left the country to get a baby.
The costs are extreme to adopt from another country.
I can only imagine what you feel ..
I dont know your situation, but have you tried all the avenue's for one of your own?
I will put you on our prayer list for an answer to your situation.
Dont give up .. !Me and my husband was wanting to adopt a child but ....How do I start? I wish God will just give me a baby.?
hi , you dont say why you need to adopt i presume there must be a reason ,? ( you dont have to say ) its just me and my wife tried to have a child together when we first got together and we lost five through egg topics and misscarrages , then when she had the last eggtopic pregnancy they removed her right tube and told us that ivf was the only way as the left one was totally shot to pieces , BUT THEN SHE FELL PREGNANT A MONTH LATER AND NOW OUR SON IS NEARLY NINE SO THER IS HOPE FOR EVERY ONE
god bless you all
tj and tracy uk
precious.org is where I started. We now have a beautiful little boy who is having his 4th birthday this weekend.....his FIRST ONE with us as his forever family.
God Bless
visit your state agency and like catholic social services dont wit till your too old hunny if your more middle age n younger you have proof that you r having trouble getting pg then you will be able to get and infant even now older kids n toddlers are plenty good luck hunny dont wait ~~~~~~
First you need to decide if you want an infant or if you want an older child, then try to decide if you can handle one that has special needs or not. Next pick a country or stay in the USA. Check out www.adoption.com as they have lots of links to various programs and information. If you are chosing a foreign adoption, then start at the government web sites to read about each country, time frames, number of visits required, etc. Its a lot to research so keep notes on everything until you finally come to a decision. Adoption. com also has a list of adoption professionals by state. Adoptive Families Magazine also has a list of agency's and what they are licensed for in each state. Good luck.
Adopting is great...my family does foster care and I already know I will adopt children in addition to having some of my own ( I want a big family).
There are lots of private adoption agencies - those are the places that people say they have difficulty from. How old are you looking for? There are lots of older children - contact the Department of Social Children, as well as infants. Get your name on every list you can. ';Normal'; infants are hard to find in DSS - 2 of my adopted little sisters were drug babies - one is becoming a normal 5 year old and the other is just turning one, and has HIV.
Consider posting on websites like craigslist and the newspaper. ASK around - visit a 'planned parenthood'-type place and see if they know of any girls looking into adoption. Expect for the process to take 1 - 2 years, or more depending on your situation. -- Try new things that other people have not - advertise on your clothing - a friend of the family got a shirt made that said -
are you PREGNANT thinking about ADOPTION? We are looking to ADOPT. Call XXX-XXX-XXXX we will respect your PRIVACY
Good Luck!
I work my husband gets pension and disability we have 2 kids and file eic will we get the full rebate?
Under the House plan, married taxpayers filing jointly would be eligible to receive a rebate of up to $1200 if they paid that much in Federal Income Tax. If you only paid $750 in taxes (less than the $1200 rebate limit), you only get back $750. If you paid no tax, but had earned income of at least $3000, you will get the minimum rebate of $300.
If you qualify for any rebate, you would receive an additional $300 per child.
However, the Senate is considering an alternate plan so that disabled veterans living on government benefits would be eligible for a $300 payment. If your husband is a disabled veteran, then he may qualify if the Senate passes the bill in this form.
Click on the referenced site below for more info.
Nothing has passed Congress yet, so everything is subject to change.I work my husband gets pension and disability we have 2 kids and file eic will we get the full rebate?
No way to tell yet - nothing has been finalized by Congress.I work my husband gets pension and disability we have 2 kids and file eic will we get the full rebate?
Its also impossible to tell about the rebates, as the final details have not yet been worked out by congress.
If you qualify for any rebate, you would receive an additional $300 per child.
However, the Senate is considering an alternate plan so that disabled veterans living on government benefits would be eligible for a $300 payment. If your husband is a disabled veteran, then he may qualify if the Senate passes the bill in this form.
Click on the referenced site below for more info.
Nothing has passed Congress yet, so everything is subject to change.I work my husband gets pension and disability we have 2 kids and file eic will we get the full rebate?
No way to tell yet - nothing has been finalized by Congress.I work my husband gets pension and disability we have 2 kids and file eic will we get the full rebate?
Its also impossible to tell about the rebates, as the final details have not yet been worked out by congress.
What if my husband refuses to get medical help or take his meds?
I asked the question earlier about symptoms before death, I want to elaborate a little bit, I have tried over and over to get my husband to go to the hospital, I have begged him to take his insuline for our childrens sake, in doing all of this he still refuses to take his meds and refuses to go to the hospital, he has 2 viles of insulin left that he flat out refuses to take, I make meals that are appropriate because that is the only way I know how to help him, I am at a loss on what to do and I am afraid I'm going to wake up one morning to find him gone.What if my husband refuses to get medical help or take his meds?
I think your husband is in a deep depression over his health issues and probably more than just that and is just wanting everything to end. You need to get someone who he will listen to to try to convince him to take care of himself and to get counseling for his depression. You may need to do a full blown intervention with friends and family present.What if my husband refuses to get medical help or take his meds?
You need to get him to the ER NOW.Call an ambulance.
If he dies this way , you will be held responsible.
You are killing this man.
Get him to the hospital before the autopsy convicts you of murder and your children are all alone.
Unfortunately, there isn't much you can do. He is an adult and it's his perogative to choose what he does with his body.
He may be depressed (it sure sounds like it). Ask him why he's choosing to self-destruct.
Because he is insulin dependent, diet will only go so far in managing his illness.
See if his doctor will make a house call. Contact the doctor and explain your dilemma. Mention the possibility of depression as well as his refusal to take the insulin.
I think he needs an intervention - and fast. Diabetes untreated can severeley effect your health. Blindness, gang greene, heart failure, ect. I think that you need to get your family members, make them aware of whats happening and get an intervention going, especially for your childrens sake.
God Bless.
Your husband sounds very depressed and is actually considered suicidal (death by disease). You can have him treated against his will if he is felt to be suicidal by the medical community. At some point he will also probably become comatose %26amp; he can be treated in an ER at that time also and at that point he can be held with some psych intervention. This is a horrible way to be especially with children. I would call your MD as others have suggested %26amp; even ask to speak to him as an appointment. Do not get blown off here--keep perservering. I wish you all the very best outcome here.
Have you called his doc? He needs more help than you can give him.
I think your husband is in a deep depression over his health issues and probably more than just that and is just wanting everything to end. You need to get someone who he will listen to to try to convince him to take care of himself and to get counseling for his depression. You may need to do a full blown intervention with friends and family present.What if my husband refuses to get medical help or take his meds?
You need to get him to the ER NOW.Call an ambulance.
If he dies this way , you will be held responsible.
You are killing this man.
Get him to the hospital before the autopsy convicts you of murder and your children are all alone.
Unfortunately, there isn't much you can do. He is an adult and it's his perogative to choose what he does with his body.
He may be depressed (it sure sounds like it). Ask him why he's choosing to self-destruct.
Because he is insulin dependent, diet will only go so far in managing his illness.
See if his doctor will make a house call. Contact the doctor and explain your dilemma. Mention the possibility of depression as well as his refusal to take the insulin.
I think he needs an intervention - and fast. Diabetes untreated can severeley effect your health. Blindness, gang greene, heart failure, ect. I think that you need to get your family members, make them aware of whats happening and get an intervention going, especially for your childrens sake.
God Bless.
Your husband sounds very depressed and is actually considered suicidal (death by disease). You can have him treated against his will if he is felt to be suicidal by the medical community. At some point he will also probably become comatose %26amp; he can be treated in an ER at that time also and at that point he can be held with some psych intervention. This is a horrible way to be especially with children. I would call your MD as others have suggested %26amp; even ask to speak to him as an appointment. Do not get blown off here--keep perservering. I wish you all the very best outcome here.
Have you called his doc? He needs more help than you can give him.
What does my husband need to do if his original work sponsorship application was sent to the wrong Dept 2001?
Back in April 2001, (before the cut off date ), my husbands uncle filled out a work sponsor application , he was told to send the application to the immiigration Dept. We were told that he sent it to the wrong Dept. He should have sent it to the Labor Dept. What can we do now in order to keep my husband here in th US as a permanent resident? He has been able to stay here on a temporary work authorization which we renew every year, I'm affraid that this could all change, please help.What does my husband need to do if his original work sponsorship application was sent to the wrong Dept 2001?
Talk to an a In migration expert like a lawyer but the ones that knows about this type of situation not all know everything but some do know in this kind of work permit sponsorship application. Good luck!!!What does my husband need to do if his original work sponsorship application was sent to the wrong Dept 2001?
Tell him to get out of our country.
Talk to an a In migration expert like a lawyer but the ones that knows about this type of situation not all know everything but some do know in this kind of work permit sponsorship application. Good luck!!!What does my husband need to do if his original work sponsorship application was sent to the wrong Dept 2001?
Tell him to get out of our country.
How do you pick up the pieces again after your husband leaves you for another woman?
I don't know where to start.How do you pick up the pieces again after your husband leaves you for another woman?
you talk with your friends......
you talk with your pastor......
you join a separated and divorced support group.....
you do things FOR YOU.How do you pick up the pieces again after your husband leaves you for another woman?
Was infidelity involved? There are several levels of pain you must be experiencing now. If he cheated on you, then you may be having self-worth issues. Since he left, you may also be experiencing abandonment issues. Since I don't know the whole story, I can only speculate.
I understand this can be devastating. The first thing you need to do is grieve. Let it all out. You deserve to feel whatever you're feeling.
Secondly, start doing small things for yourself, and only you. Maybe a day spa, clothes shopping, or whatever you've been wanting to do for a while.
Third, start making small decisions, then following through. Even if it's something simple like: I'm going to the library at 4PM, no matter what.
This will develop a sense of self-trust again.
One thing that can happen after someone leaves a relationship, especially in the circumstances you describe, is that you start questioning your own decisions.
';If I chose to marry him, I must be wrong about other things too.';
It's ok to let that thought cross your mind, but know that your decisions are based on trusting yourself. If something doesn't work out, that doesn't mean the decision was wrong, it just means that you've learned to be more selective next time.
By gaining a trust in yourself again, you will start to think more clearly. The more small decisions you make, and follow through on, the more you will trust yourself.
Eventually, you will look back without the emotional attachment to the event and realize that his leaving was the best decision for both of you.
Oh man. That sucks. Leave the pieces on the floor. As a matter of fact, throw them in the bucket! Put all kinds of bleach on the pieces. Clean up that mess of pieces. My point is, do whatever it takes to heal and start a new. Learn from it and move on. Some things that helped me heal were therapy, self-esteem support groups/friends (not the slut ones), self help books, daily walks to purposely remember the beauty, the simple beauty we take for granite and thank the universe out loud for every day and everything that is created in our presence starting with yourself. The list goes on. Oh, and if you can help it, Stay away from him, take his phone number out of your phone and do not, do not receive calls from him for at least a year! Take this year to heal and be proactive in your time of healing.
i think the best way is to learn to accept reality. we tend to be hurt bc we tend to envision our significant as the ideal. the more they stray from the ';ideal';, we wonder what when wrong and question ourselves. The quicker we can learn to accept reality that they are not the ideal the quicker we can learn to take on the responsibility to rediscover happiness again. i'm sure at one point the love was real, but a solid relationship stands the test of time. its easy for me to say he's not the one and that you are much better off, but only you can start the healing process. When we sit and dwell on the situation we become delusional of the situation. Its better to face reality and accept it for what it is and then move on. Anger is a good motivator to take action in your life. I'm not trying to be cruel, but I really want to light a fire in you to do something. I don't have the exact answers on what you should do, but hopefully I can start with changing your perspective on the situation. what you can start with is what have you learned in all this so you will be more selective in a mate that is deserving of you. I'm pulling for you.
You thank God for sending this man out of your life. You realize that you did nothing wrong. You start to heal by letting it all out crying, asking why, never getting the answer you want because it is simple he was selfish. Then you work on yourself mind, body and soul. You enrich your thinking by reading and occupying your time effectively, then you take adavantage and focus on being healthy by eating right and exercising (this will make you feel better), then you thank God everyday he allows you to take a breath and count your many blessings. Time and patience is what you need and not to blame yourself. Forgive him and move on.
Oh, sweetie, sometimes you gotta scrape yourself up with a spoon 'cuz there ain't much left.....
But to start with, do good things for yourself. Even if it's something as minor as taking a hot bath. Do you have kids? If so, concentrate on them.
Be nice to yourself. Understand that, regardless of how you feel, it probably wasn't all you. I always said that I would accept 50% of the blame for my marriage falling apart BUT I WOULD NOT ACCEPT MORE THAN 50%! Don't you either!
Start out getting through five minutes at a time; When you can do that, get through 15 at a time. Soon you will work yourself up to getting through a whole day.
In the meantime, take care of yourself, be good to yourself, live well and be happy. That means different things to different people, so see how it applies to you.
And remember, this too shall pass.
Hurt, anger, depression, and acceptance are a few of what will happen.
Deal with it as it happens and hopefully you have good friends over to listen the next few months ahead.
Once that's done remake yourself from scratch. Get a new hairdo, new clothes, and re-evaluate options. Utilize your friends carefully as it would be disastrous to be overly repetitive. Acceptance will come but it will be depending on how much of a loss your husband really was. Staying busy is the key. Work longer hours or spend more time with your kids, immediate family or friends..
Well, you can see by the responses that people care, and that should make you feel better. There are some good people out there.
You probably have all kinds of feelings about how inadequate you must be. What did she have that you did not.
Try to forget this. Who cares? Let them have each other. As for you, it opens up a lot of new possibilities. Once you get over the hurt, you will see it. Stay on your feet, and do well. The hurt feelings will pass.
One piece at a time. there isn't any quick fixes , no cure alls, best thing to do is pick yourself up, move forward, when you get kicked down again, pick up and do it, sooner it will get better and the pain will subside. it takes a long time but you will get past it and find that it has made you stronger.
If you have any children, then you aren't allowed to date until they are 18. Divorce only makes you unmarried, not single. Every man that you bring into your house damages your children. If you need to get laid, then go to a bar and get laid. Never bring any other man into your house. When you said 'I do' and got pregnant, you gave up every right to happiness that you had. Your children come first, always. That means that you will be alone from now on.
I am so sorry.
If it were me, I would get all of the anger and sadness out first (and not dwell there too long). One way that works for me is to write my feelings and thoughts out about the situation - in all of the gory, ugly detail with all of the awful feelings spelled out, no holds barred. When I am done - I light it on fire and watch it burn. It has helped me with several big problems.
Then, I would make a plan for what I want out of my life. Think as big as you want and write it all down. What are your dreams and goals? Likes and dislikes? What do you like to do? Make a list of places you want to see. Then, pick one and do it and keep picking if you want and until you are done.
Hope this helps.
Although it might seem like you're not ready right now, but move on by getting a friend of the opposite sex that you can talk to and go out with. That helps a lot. It doesn't have to be someone to get into a relationship with, but someone that will help you through this time. It worked for me.
Cry a lot, spend time with friends, take time off work, maybe a holiday and eventually you麓ll find that life can still be fun. and then you麓ll realise he麓s a loser and someone better will come along.
same thing happened to me, no easy way but make sure you get out of it learning something and being a better stronger person
In time you will be able too. I know it hurts because I been there but now I look back and I am so happy now. You need to get up get your hair done cut whatever makes you feel good. His loss.. Make sure you don't show him how you are feeling. I just prayed and said to hell with him. Now my mom when my dad left her she cried for 10 yrs no lie. But it will get better tell yourself this.
Start to focus on being happy again, and relieving yourself of the rats, such as your husband.
it's obvious divorce before he decides to use you again. you don't deserve the same label as a front door matt.
I wouldn't either - So sorry to hear this
just cry until you get sick of crying, he is in the wind....gone !!
First do lots of kegels....second work out really hard....3rd boob implants.
you talk with your friends......
you talk with your pastor......
you join a separated and divorced support group.....
you do things FOR YOU.How do you pick up the pieces again after your husband leaves you for another woman?
Was infidelity involved? There are several levels of pain you must be experiencing now. If he cheated on you, then you may be having self-worth issues. Since he left, you may also be experiencing abandonment issues. Since I don't know the whole story, I can only speculate.
I understand this can be devastating. The first thing you need to do is grieve. Let it all out. You deserve to feel whatever you're feeling.
Secondly, start doing small things for yourself, and only you. Maybe a day spa, clothes shopping, or whatever you've been wanting to do for a while.
Third, start making small decisions, then following through. Even if it's something simple like: I'm going to the library at 4PM, no matter what.
This will develop a sense of self-trust again.
One thing that can happen after someone leaves a relationship, especially in the circumstances you describe, is that you start questioning your own decisions.
';If I chose to marry him, I must be wrong about other things too.';
It's ok to let that thought cross your mind, but know that your decisions are based on trusting yourself. If something doesn't work out, that doesn't mean the decision was wrong, it just means that you've learned to be more selective next time.
By gaining a trust in yourself again, you will start to think more clearly. The more small decisions you make, and follow through on, the more you will trust yourself.
Eventually, you will look back without the emotional attachment to the event and realize that his leaving was the best decision for both of you.
Oh man. That sucks. Leave the pieces on the floor. As a matter of fact, throw them in the bucket! Put all kinds of bleach on the pieces. Clean up that mess of pieces. My point is, do whatever it takes to heal and start a new. Learn from it and move on. Some things that helped me heal were therapy, self-esteem support groups/friends (not the slut ones), self help books, daily walks to purposely remember the beauty, the simple beauty we take for granite and thank the universe out loud for every day and everything that is created in our presence starting with yourself. The list goes on. Oh, and if you can help it, Stay away from him, take his phone number out of your phone and do not, do not receive calls from him for at least a year! Take this year to heal and be proactive in your time of healing.
i think the best way is to learn to accept reality. we tend to be hurt bc we tend to envision our significant as the ideal. the more they stray from the ';ideal';, we wonder what when wrong and question ourselves. The quicker we can learn to accept reality that they are not the ideal the quicker we can learn to take on the responsibility to rediscover happiness again. i'm sure at one point the love was real, but a solid relationship stands the test of time. its easy for me to say he's not the one and that you are much better off, but only you can start the healing process. When we sit and dwell on the situation we become delusional of the situation. Its better to face reality and accept it for what it is and then move on. Anger is a good motivator to take action in your life. I'm not trying to be cruel, but I really want to light a fire in you to do something. I don't have the exact answers on what you should do, but hopefully I can start with changing your perspective on the situation. what you can start with is what have you learned in all this so you will be more selective in a mate that is deserving of you. I'm pulling for you.
You thank God for sending this man out of your life. You realize that you did nothing wrong. You start to heal by letting it all out crying, asking why, never getting the answer you want because it is simple he was selfish. Then you work on yourself mind, body and soul. You enrich your thinking by reading and occupying your time effectively, then you take adavantage and focus on being healthy by eating right and exercising (this will make you feel better), then you thank God everyday he allows you to take a breath and count your many blessings. Time and patience is what you need and not to blame yourself. Forgive him and move on.
Oh, sweetie, sometimes you gotta scrape yourself up with a spoon 'cuz there ain't much left.....
But to start with, do good things for yourself. Even if it's something as minor as taking a hot bath. Do you have kids? If so, concentrate on them.
Be nice to yourself. Understand that, regardless of how you feel, it probably wasn't all you. I always said that I would accept 50% of the blame for my marriage falling apart BUT I WOULD NOT ACCEPT MORE THAN 50%! Don't you either!
Start out getting through five minutes at a time; When you can do that, get through 15 at a time. Soon you will work yourself up to getting through a whole day.
In the meantime, take care of yourself, be good to yourself, live well and be happy. That means different things to different people, so see how it applies to you.
And remember, this too shall pass.
Hurt, anger, depression, and acceptance are a few of what will happen.
Deal with it as it happens and hopefully you have good friends over to listen the next few months ahead.
Once that's done remake yourself from scratch. Get a new hairdo, new clothes, and re-evaluate options. Utilize your friends carefully as it would be disastrous to be overly repetitive. Acceptance will come but it will be depending on how much of a loss your husband really was. Staying busy is the key. Work longer hours or spend more time with your kids, immediate family or friends..
Well, you can see by the responses that people care, and that should make you feel better. There are some good people out there.
You probably have all kinds of feelings about how inadequate you must be. What did she have that you did not.
Try to forget this. Who cares? Let them have each other. As for you, it opens up a lot of new possibilities. Once you get over the hurt, you will see it. Stay on your feet, and do well. The hurt feelings will pass.
One piece at a time. there isn't any quick fixes , no cure alls, best thing to do is pick yourself up, move forward, when you get kicked down again, pick up and do it, sooner it will get better and the pain will subside. it takes a long time but you will get past it and find that it has made you stronger.
If you have any children, then you aren't allowed to date until they are 18. Divorce only makes you unmarried, not single. Every man that you bring into your house damages your children. If you need to get laid, then go to a bar and get laid. Never bring any other man into your house. When you said 'I do' and got pregnant, you gave up every right to happiness that you had. Your children come first, always. That means that you will be alone from now on.
I am so sorry.
If it were me, I would get all of the anger and sadness out first (and not dwell there too long). One way that works for me is to write my feelings and thoughts out about the situation - in all of the gory, ugly detail with all of the awful feelings spelled out, no holds barred. When I am done - I light it on fire and watch it burn. It has helped me with several big problems.
Then, I would make a plan for what I want out of my life. Think as big as you want and write it all down. What are your dreams and goals? Likes and dislikes? What do you like to do? Make a list of places you want to see. Then, pick one and do it and keep picking if you want and until you are done.
Hope this helps.
Although it might seem like you're not ready right now, but move on by getting a friend of the opposite sex that you can talk to and go out with. That helps a lot. It doesn't have to be someone to get into a relationship with, but someone that will help you through this time. It worked for me.
Cry a lot, spend time with friends, take time off work, maybe a holiday and eventually you麓ll find that life can still be fun. and then you麓ll realise he麓s a loser and someone better will come along.
same thing happened to me, no easy way but make sure you get out of it learning something and being a better stronger person
In time you will be able too. I know it hurts because I been there but now I look back and I am so happy now. You need to get up get your hair done cut whatever makes you feel good. His loss.. Make sure you don't show him how you are feeling. I just prayed and said to hell with him. Now my mom when my dad left her she cried for 10 yrs no lie. But it will get better tell yourself this.
Start to focus on being happy again, and relieving yourself of the rats, such as your husband.
it's obvious divorce before he decides to use you again. you don't deserve the same label as a front door matt.
I wouldn't either - So sorry to hear this
just cry until you get sick of crying, he is in the wind....gone !!
First do lots of kegels....second work out really hard....3rd boob implants.
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