He slept with her because of your bad relationship. You and he were not happy with each other and some days you wouldn't even speak to each other. You took each other for granted. Looks aren't so important when someone is showing you great appreciation and desire to be around you.Why did my husband cheat on me with a unpresentable woman?
It is often said that what one woman wont do another one will. There are a number of reasons that he may have cheated with someone as you say ';unrepresentable';.
She may have been there for him when things weren't going well at home, or maybe because you weren't satisfying him sexually or you may have gained weight. Maybe she was someone that listened to him when you wouldn't.
Men are creatures of habit and maybe there was something that you used to do that he liked and you stopped doing it, or maybe because this other person was comforting, understanding and someone he could lean on.
All of these could be valid reasons but the best way to get the right answer is to ask your husband. His answer is the best answer, because we dont know what things are like for either of you so all we can do is assume. You dont want to assume nothing is better than getting the truth no matter how much it may hurt.
I'm sorry to be so blunt but this is just men for you. If they have the opportunity for sex on a platter then they sure as hell going to take it. But not to be like that to all men, some are loyal and wouldnt do this. But some would be sorely tempted not to.
I have had this experience, a previous partner cheated on me for a month with another girl. When I saw her, she is really very unnatractive, and not to blow my own trumpet, but I have been told that I am more than great in bed. So why did he do it?
Some men are A s s e s. They don't realise what they have. They just want sex. If you believe in evolution etc. The first real humans, mens job was to ';sew their seeds'; their job was over after they had sex. In order for their species to survive they had to have sex as much as they could.
If you are nicer than this woman, leave him :) Let him have his uggo.
They always are.
I have seen that with other couples ... the cheater is generally with someone way less attractive than the one they are cheating on! I think that the reasoning behind this is that when the person cheats, he or she is not looking for a person to actually be with long term. The cheater has no intentions of leaving his or her partner - just of having a little ';fun'; for the night (or week or month ...). Sometimes they are just looking for someone to talk to/be intimate with when their own relationship is going through troubled times. Therefore, they don't usually care what the person looks like ... as gross as that is!
Take a step back. I like your approach...very European...more concerned that the mistress meets your standards than that there is one.
What about you? Are you the girl he married? Are you fun? Or have you become mom and wife and put him last?
So many women think they can do one thing to get the guy and then once they get married, house, kids, etc put their time and energy into those areas. They are too tired and suddenly unwilling to do what they did to get the ring in the 1st place.
Something about 'a wife doesn't do that in bed.
So have you stopped being the girl he wanted to marry? The one who excited and made him happy? Are you the one who just reminds him off all the things that haven't been done and the things that bother you/
Bet this girl who doesn't meat your standards would say NO to every question? Did you?
BC
Let's be real. It's hard to resist hot woman for some man because some women out there dresses so sexy that it's irresistable. So it's not 100% his fault. But he should stop immediate, seek counselor, or if he can't resist then it's better for both of you to walk out seperately so he can continue to live his life like horn dog and you can find someone better.
Why does it matter what she looked like? Or even who she is?
The fact remains he had an affair... and the trust is now broken.
Only he can answer the reasons why he had the affair...and he might not even be able to fully answer that.
Your questions will eventually grow to more questions.
Both of you need a heart to heart talk- a 'real' talk- with openness and understanding.
May you and your husband have different ways you look at things besides beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Maybe your husband just liked her personality and the way she made him feel. He might just could be his self around her and just let go and be care free. There is just one more reason she could just be a freak!!!!!
Sorry to tell you this but men don't have standards when it comes to their penis, it is only about what they want.
Maybe she is below your standards but not his.
I would be more concerned about what else he has done that you don't know about????
well maybe he had a brain fart:))):)) sound discounting.. i know.
a brain fart is when someone does a stupid thing, even though he knows is not right and he has no idea why he's doing it.
maybe he just had a brain fart or maybe he was really horny at the moment.
why don't you ask him why he cheated on you with that woman??
good luck ;)
maybe thats why he cheated on you since all you're worried about is that fact you consider he below you standards, have you a pulse? do you actually have any emotional response to things?
Have you had yourself checked for STDs?
Maybe a year ago, things were going a lot better for her and she didn't look as she does now. Would you really have felt any better if she had been gorgeous?
Who cares who he slept with. Cheating is cheating. Period.
Divorce him and let him have whatever home wrecking skank he wants.
She obviously made him feel something about himself that he liked. That's usually how it is with infidelity.
Well...to be perfectly blunt she probably could suck the sap out of a Louisville Slugger...that's more than likely the reason.
looks don't matter honey, they find a woman who is will to listen and do what he want. she give him something you did not.
Maybe your husband feel comfortable with her, coz they both smelled like crap.
Men have affairs when something is missing in a marriage. This woman met that need what ever it was.
Apparently your husband doesn't share your standards.
Or maybe you're not all that, either.
Probably because she was so different.
What standards he has none and that you are still with him tells us that is the one thing you two share.
hi
i don't know but may be he is just cheating the is nothing wrong with you don't stoop so low carry on being beautiful then maybe he will c your worth
Maybe she was more down to earth, no offense but you sound pretty stuck up
He liked it!!!
she obviously was doing the deed better then you
your husband does not care and wanted something quick....***!
looks dont matter !!! she might have something in her which is attracting your husband. more to offer than you have.
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