How do you go about telling your future to be husband that you have herpes?

I am scared her would call off the wedding or even leave me,We've been having unpretected sex before I found out that I had it,Should I tell him or what should I do?Its bugging meHow do you go about telling your future to be husband that you have herpes?
Yes you need to tell him, Stop having sex with him and tell him right away. He has a right to know that he now may have a nasty disease for life. He don't desreve to be infected unless he choose to. He does however desreve a lot better then this!!!


JEDHow do you go about telling your future to be husband that you have herpes?
I too have that problem. I just buried my head like the ostrich. I kept it a secret. And we are doing fine.
He has a right to know straight away as he may even have it now.


If he loves you then you should make it.
if hes the one that gave it to you then go ahead..even if he wasnt then you need to tell him b.c. honesty is the best quality in a good marriage. and if he loves you like you think he does then he will be ok with it. and can take a pill or sumthin...


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good luck!
You need to be honest with him NOW. I can't believe you did not tell him this before having unprotected sex with him. That's very selfish. Can you blame him if he wanted to call it off after that? If you had told him up front, he most likely would have been relatively ok with it, but you hid it throughout your entire relationship. That's dishonest. How can he trust you after that? It's unfortunate and I realize it must be really hard for you having this and being worried about telling him but you need to be an adult about this and just flat out say I have herpes and you need to get checked. You can explain to him how it can be managed with medicine or whatever and then you'll just need to give him some time to absorb the fact that you didn't let him know before having sex.
Honesty is always the best way to start a marraige. If he finds out you lied about that, he'll never trust you again. You just have to explain it as best you can, with enough information to let him deal with it in his own way. If he loves you, he'll be understanding. This is not to say that he won't be angry or feel betrayed, but letting him know as soon as you're aware of it yourself is the only fair thing to do. Put yourself in his shoes and ask yourself what would I want from him? It bothers me that you would even think about keeping this kind of a secret from someone you're supposedly going to share your life with. He's got to know sooner or later. . . . .
Tell him right away!! Its sucks, but if he loves you, he'll be pissed off first, then you guys need to talk it out.





Good Luck
You are a horrible person unless you tell him. That is so serious.
Iif he truly loves you he'll understand. Otherwise why would marry a guy who would doesn't love you unconditionally? Withholding the information from him until after you got married would be a terrible mistake. He'll eventually figure it out if you don't tell him and it could break up your marriage. Why would he want to be married to someone who is not forthcoming about something that could affect/infect him?? Tell him now.
You need to tell him, he has the right to know. Just be honest and provide him with information/educational materials on herpes. Good luck.
You need to tell him ASAP..........
If you dont and he finds out its a crminal offence and he can press charges.. You HAVE to tell him... But make sure you give him 100% of the facts when you do. Make up a pamplet or something will all of the information about relationships with herpes.
He should know before he becomes your husband for sure. Maybe the physician who diagnosed you can help you with this.
Just come out with it. You should have some educational information with you so he understands it. Tell him the signs and symptoms and what he can do to be protected. People are less scared of something they understand. Good luck!
You should have told him a long time ago. It is gonna come out sooner or later.
If you really love him, you would tell him that you have it and there is a chance he could have it. Marriage is built on LOVE and HONESTY...and you cant have love if you arent honest.





Marriage is forever. If he loves you, he will love you despite the fact you have herpes...isnt the point of marriage that you two will only love and have sex with EACHOTHER, for the rest of your lives?
You had better tell him now. You should have been fully honest from the begining. You may loose him, but that is the consequence of your lying from the beginning! He will find out eventually. Better sooner than later. And better before he catches it than after! Sorry!
Without question you have to tell him. Just sit him down and tell him about it. If he leaves you over it, then so be it. You can't really keep something like that from him. It effects you both.
thats a big one u really got to to tell him and let him know. i think it would be worse to get a divorce then to just split up rite now... if he turly loves you he has to understand and try to work something out... i hope you guys get it figured out.. good luck i really hope everything goes well
ok my dear itis a difficuklt question to answere ,but I will try to give you an honest answere ,tell him very politely ,rthat you have this problm see what he does what kind of reaction he gives you.if he gets mad and call off the wedding then he is no good any way for you it is better that you tell him before hand if he leaves you before the wedding with you telling him the truth ,then he was never yours ,what if he kows about this after you got married ,and suppose yopu are pregnent then he leaves you after you have told him about it ,it will be even harder for you not for him think about it and talk to him before wedding that is the right way I think I hope you understand ,I know it is difficult and not fair ,but,who says life is fair .